Post # 1
Has anyone just up and left their city for a new place, that neither you or your SO have ever lived in?
Me and Alex are thinking of doing it. City life just isnt for us. I grew up in a tiny country town, he didnt grow up in the country, but it was a small southern town. Neither of us like living in the city. Its too hectic for me, I dont like walking around here, I never feel safe. I dont like that I have to drive (which I dont drive) just to get places. He doesnt like the crime rate here, he says he wouldnt want to raise his kids in a city where you cant go 3 days without hearing of someone getting shot down the street.
So we want to move. But we’re both nervous about the prospect of just leaving everyone and everything behind. Has any other young couple done this? How did it go?
Post # 3
My SO & I moved from Atlanta, GA to a tiny town in rural N. CA after I graduated college. It wasn’t a totally new place, we went for a weekend visit before we made our decision & he has alot of old friends that live there, but no family & none of my friends are anywhere nearby. Neither of us had jobs or even a house lined up (we tried but no-one would take us seriously from across the country). The move itself was fun & exciting although we were a bit nervous as we had never lived together before. He wasn’t able to find a regular job but has made more than enough doing random jobs for friends, and I found a great job a month after the move. We haven’t really had any issues come up, aside from having to spend what we save on obligatory annual trips back home to see the family. That’s really my only complaint, I miss my family alot but at the same time I have a huge family & would feel pulled in every corner of GA around the holidays so it’s nice not to have to worry about 15 different holiday parties.
I really enjoy it being just the two of us now & I feel like it has made our relationship alot stronger, having to deal with all the craziness that moving across country entails. We both always thought we had wanted to live in the city, but we’re both from small country towns. Once we made the move we fell back in love with the small town feel & I don’t ever see us voluntarily leaving it behind. Heck, we were just in the city for a few nights for a birthday party & I have never been so happy to be back at home in my tiny country town!
It’s a crazy and heart-wrenching journey to be making, full of confusion & uncertainty- but it is the most rewarding thing we have done together…. I wish you the best in trying to make that decision!
Post # 4
We’ve been in Columbus for our entire lives and have everything here, but in 3 weeks we will be heading to Boise for an interview for him. We’ve only seen it in pictures but I’m VERY excited about shaking things up a bit.
Post # 5
That sounds exciting!! Ive always wanted to do that.
Fi and I recently moved to a new area, but its no where near as ambitious. Its about an hour away from where we were in the NW part of the city. It’s not a big geographic difference but its still like no mans land to me. We were really excited to move. To be in a new/better part. Most of our friends who purchased did so right where they grew up. This is such an ecclectic town.
Post # 6
My husband and I moved together to a new city after college. We both grew up within 45 minutes of each other, and lived in the area our whole lives. We are about 3 hours away from our family. I love where we live and we both have zero desire to return to our hometowns. In fact, if we moved again, we would move farther away (probably Miami)
Post # 7
@allyfally: Would it be possible just to move to the suburbs or a small town close to the city? Like vs. moving across the country. I live in a big city right now but have lived around it in various smaller towns my whole life. Basically we could go into the city if we wanted to drive anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour, depending on where we lived at the time (I moved around a lot when I was a kid).
I’d suggest securing jobs before you move anywhere. It would really suck to pick a town, move, and then have to commute back into the city or be jobless for any length of time. Long commutes SUCK.
Also realize there are pros and cons to small town living or even suburbia. You need to rely on neighbors more. Gossip gets around quicker. When your kids grow older they might be so bored w. the small town life that they get up to no good. You’ll need to go into the bigger city for shopping trips etc. etc. Gas will cost more. You’ll likely be even more reliant on your car than you are now, unless you live close to the main street in the smaller town. North America is a car culture. If you want to go without a car, move to a big city in Europe with established public transportation.
I guess in a nutshell, it’s totally doable, but you need to plan this properly. My bf and I are planning on moving to a new country in the next 5-10 years. Right now we both have great jobs where we are now, but we hate the cold Canadian winters. We might either move to the States or Europe (we both have EU citizenships), but we’re not sure yet.
Post # 8
i moved from my hometown 2000 miles to attend university, then i moved from one coast to the complete other (basically NY to LA), and now i’m moving from North America to Europe! All of these moves (except the first) have been with my SO. i’m super excited, and love travelling, so moving doesn’t stress me any!
Post # 9
We did this and had a great time. We moved 20 hours away from our family in South Carolina up to Minnesota for a year and it was a great experience. Then we moved to the Charlotte metro which was new for us as well but closer to family (which is nice since we had a baby in July).
Post # 10
We moved from small town USA to a city, and didn’t like it (though you could walk or take the bus which was convenient!) for the crime and parking issues. We moved to a suburb which was great, could walk everywhere, free parking!, much safer, and finally to another suburb with good schools.
I really wanted to find a small town with a downtown where I could walk places but it just wasn’t feasible. I do like it here much better but I miss here I used to live and having family nearby.
Do what makes you happy! Just do your research first 🙂
Post # 11
I’ve never moved with anyone else but, not counting going away to college, I’ve moved twice by myself for jobs. It was worth it both times….especially the last move because this is where I met my FI.
Post # 12
We wouldnt be moving very far, probably no more than 3 or 4 hours. Theres two main towns that we’re interested in. One he lived in for a few years as a kid. He really liked it, its only about an hour and a half away, so we’re planning on driving down there for a day to see if I would like the area. The other is one I’m interested in. I first saw it on tv (it was on a ufo hunting show, lol) and I thought it looked really quaint… Then it turns out my boss is from there and she’s always talking about it.
I’ve been looking at housing websites for those areas and both of them have much cheaper housing than here, so thats a plus.
My ideal town would be a cute little european town with little cottages where you just bike everywhere. But just up and deciding to move to another country isnt really feasible. XD
Post # 13
@allyfally: That kinda reminds me of Boston sorta. People don’t necessarily bike everywhere, but it’s such a cute town/city.
I have lived in NY all my life. My FI and I are moving to SC alone, without any friends or family there (well he has friends), in about 6 weeks.
It’s a huge move. But, we’re both tired of NY. And both ready for the change. It just sucks that it’s going to be 12-14 hours of a drive away. Or a 2-hour flight (expensive).
3-4 hours away definitely isn’t a big deal. You can do that in 1 day back and forth or in a weekend to go see family/friends!
Keep us posted on your journey! 🙂
Post # 14
@futuremrsk18: Well it wont be for some time, at least a year, I would say. But if I’m still an active member here when/if it happens, I’ll definitely post about it.
Good luck on your move!
Post # 15
@allyfally: yes DH and I just up and moved 6 months after getting married, and 9 months after buying our first home there LOL But, it ended up being an amazing thing for us. However, we moved from a smaller town to chicago 😉 so opposite of you. We moved away from all of our family. Sometimes it tough but honestly, its not such a bad thing. Yes, we want to have a family but I feel that the diversity and experiences here would be good for our kids. my family isnt a great example anyway.
within 1.7 years we have purchased a home here both got amazing jobs and making money off our first home where we moved from. Things are good and I dont regret it at all. My life has completely changed though. Honestly. Are you ready for that??? I needed it actually. what towns are youthinking of? I am very familiar with kentucky (I grew up around Newburgh/Evansville Indiana and Southern Illinois)
Post # 16
@bestbuddies: Oh, thats great that you’re having such a good experience. I dont know if I’m ready or not. Honestly, I dont think I’m ready for most adult experiences. Lmao. But I guess I gotta cut the cord some time.
He wants to move to Radcliff, I want to move to Kokomo, IN.