(Closed) Moving to a new country/waiting for the ring??

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2091 posts
Buzzing bee

I would definitely have a talk with him about getting engaged before moving. Just a casual little conversation, not an ultimatium; and then see what happens. I think you’re definitely right in wanting the be engaged first, I wouldn’t want to move to another country with my man before we were engaged either. 

Can I ask where you’re moving? It sounds so exciting, running off together 🙂

Post # 5
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Definitely talk about it first. Personally I would not move if I was not engaged, it is too big a life change- I would probably tell him, when discussing the move, that we’d have to be engaged for me to consider it, although it sounds like you are past that and maybe not thinking the same way.

We had something sort of similar, my job was transferred to another state and I was really struggling with deciding whether to go or not. I didn’t really want to go, and he definitely didn’t want to, so we went back and forth on waht to do. I explained that I felt like I could’nt just quit and stay here without some kind of commitment, so he did propose before I had to make the decision, adn then obvoiusly I quit the job.

Post # 7
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@jjb25: Would you want to move to Australia if he wasn’t going with you? If yes, then I think you should still go. Make sure it is for you as much as your relationship! If it were me, i’d be gone in a second – I spent a month in Australia a couple years ago – my husband and I were going to try and move there, but when the economy collapsed, it became less and less realistic. Hope it works out for you!

Post # 9
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

So we were in the EXACT same position as you a few years ago.

We’d been dating for 5 years. Mr. Jaguar got a job in London (we’re from Sydney!) and we had to make the choice yay or nay. I wanted a ring before we left/he wasn’t ready for that yet. I had to decide whether to go and risk everything on us, just because we weren’t engaged – or stay behind and think about me.

I went. We got engaged during that trip. It worked out perfectly. He later said that when I made that decision to move overseas, that’s when he knew he was ready to marry me. I’m not saying that’s what happens for everyone, but it CAN work that way!

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