Moving to Bay Area soon, worried about living "affordably" and commute.

posted 2 years ago in San Francisco Bay Area
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

My brother recently lived with friends in San Jose and some of them commuted into San Fran.  That whole area is just crazy expensive 🙁  Even San Jose was pretty pricey. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

kiraly17:  how long do you consider a long commute. I soooo get where you are coming from. I lived in Hayward and commuted to SF every day and now I live on the peninsula a little further south of San Mateo and still commute to SF. 

I guess it all boils down to how you going to commute? Car – think about the wear and tear and gas costs? BART or CalTrain think about those daily costs adding up? Quality of life – do you have kids? what amount of time will be spent away from home just commuting? I will say that the commute from the peninsula is wayyyyyyy better than from the east bay. It used to take me 2 hours to get home from SF to Hayward to where now on the peninsula it is on average about 45 mins to an hour each way. 

Take what it will cost you per day and add that in to what it will cost you where you will live and is it worth the shorter commute with less travel expenses or double commute with less housing costs? I was born and raised here in the Bay and I will say that I totally love being on the Peninsula the most. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I live (and work) in Oakland.  Commuting via public transit (BART) is great if you’re able to go that route.  Your husband really wouldn’t if he works in San Mateo.  The 880 freeway is pretty bad, and he’d have to cross a bridge (which always adds time onto the drive).  But honestly, I think this is what a majority of bay area people end up doing.  Living in the bay area, you basically know you’ll probably have to deal with a commute.  It’s do-able, and living in the East Bay is way more afforadable.  (And honestly, I love living in Oakland.  We live on the Berkeley/Emeryville boarder and everything is close by).

Alameda is awesome.  I’ve been trying to get Mr. BC to move there for years (but it really would make his commute to Marin unbearable).  My fingers are crossed that we’ll get there some day.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

kiraly17:  it’s always a trade off here. You either commute, or you have an ungodly rent amount and live close by. I live in Santa Cruz and commute to Santa Clara. Not bad noe, but I did go to school up past Petaluma and commuted down to Santa Clara. That was way worse! 

This is why I’m completely moving from CA after our wedding. 

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I lived in SF for about 5 years and grew up in Fremont. SF got too expensive, even rent in Fremont was insane, and everywhere between Oakland to San Jose to San Mateo is just nuttyballs right now. I live up in the North Bay in Santa Rosa now and it’s a lot more affordable, but it’s about an hour away from SF and you pretty much have to have a car. The commute is a bitch, but do-able. I commuted between Santa Rosa and SF for about a year and it was fine. I know a lot of my professors when I was in grad school commuted from Petaluma to SF, it’s about 45 minutes and a straight shot down 101 and across the GG bridge. But again, what you’re not paying for cost of living, you’re paying in tolls and gas. 

I think what I find people forgetting about is not only rent, but how much more tax is, paying for parking, paying tolls, commodities being more expensive (milk, produce, gas), entrees at restaurants being $1-$2 more in these areas, etc… It’s just a very expensive place to live. So keep that in mind as well when looking at different areas; somewhere like Alameda or Fremont may be slightly less in day-to-day expenses than somewhere like San Jose or Palo Alto. 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

kiraly17: I live in SF and commute to Berkeley. bart everyday adds up, and it’s 2 hrs each day. 

The East Bay hoods you’re looking at are very hip! We thought about moving there when I got my east bay job but It didn’t make sense. 

Would Burlingame or Daly City make sense? I know both are family friendly, just depends on your budget. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

If your husband is going to be working in San Mateo and you in SF, there is absolutely no way I would live in the East Bay. My FI used to commute from the Peninsula to work in the East Bay and even though it was somewhat of a reverse commute, it was horrible for him (and me, since I felt like I never got to see him).

I would live in Millbrae/San Bruno/Daly City so that your husband could take Caltrain from Millbrae down and you could take BART into the city when you don’t have to drive. COL in those places isn’t too bad.

If you insist on the East Bay, Fremont or Hayward would probably be the most doable although your commute would still be pretty bad (especially if driving, but rather long on BART too).

ETA: Feel free to PM me if you have any other specific questions about areas or whatnot — I’ve lived and worked in the East Bay, SF, and the Peninsula doing crazy commutes, so am happy to help if I can!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

kiraly17: Burlingame is my pick if we ever move to the ‘burbs. Daly City has a Trader Joes! Though I don’t blame you for not wanting to move there. 

Definitely model it out. I live in Noe Valley, and when I had to commute to Sunnyvale (further than San Mateo, but still) I was looking at 45 – 2 hour drives. It sucked a lot. Going down the other side of the peninsula gives you options, but you have to deal with the bridges and the merges. 

A friend of mine lives in Hayward and commuted to San Mateo, but he also would go in at 11 am and leave at 8 pm to avoid traffic. Just food for thought.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

kiraly17:  Burlingame is great, but it’s pretty pricey. San Mateo/Hillsdale are likely to be more reasonable in terms of cost.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

I was going to say watch out for Milbrae and Burlingame too as you are right next to the airport and will have the planes right over you…all. the. time.

I second Redwood City, San Carlos, San Mateo, Foster City area for you guys.

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