Post # 1
so i have always wanted a fall wedding. my fiance and i had agreed on getting married in oct 2012. just yesterday we were talking about his graduation from his bachelors and his plan to continue his education and get his masters. he is scheduled to graduate may of 2012 and the masters program begins in august 2012. he is a deputy sheriff, so his university has a special program that accomidates his schedule. His masters degree is a one year program that consists of 3 semesters, 1 class ata time, 5 weeks per class with a one week break every third class. So when he starts the program in august he will not have a week off until the middle of december. So that outs a damper on our plans to get married in october since there is no time for a honeymoon.
he suggested that we keep our date anyway and just wait till december to go on our honeymoon. that just seems silly to me. he said he’ll go along with whatever i decide, so it’s up to me. keep my intended date and wait for a honeymoon or push the date back 2 months? i just worry that if we stick with october he will have a paper or a class presentation due and we will spend our “wedding weekend” doing homework, lol. we have not yet booked anything (although i have picked a dress, lol), so we dont need to worry about any of that.
have any of you bees had a similiar situation? how did you handle it?
Post # 3
If you are concerned you both won’t be able to enjoy your wedding weekend due to his school commitments, I would consider pushing the wedding back to December. However, there is nothing wrong with waiting to take your honeymoon a little later, so don’t let that be the deciding factor! Since you don’t have anything booked yet, go with whichever date works better as a whole. Good luck!
Post # 4
I am in a similar situation due to the fact that my FI is in the army and his career plans are all up in the air right now, so he has no idea if he will be able to take off for a honeymoon directly following the wedding. To me, the wedding is the most important and I’d rather keep my date and marry him and then plan our honeymoon later for whenever we can.
Sure it’s great to get married and then board that plane but to me, it seems silly to base your wedding around the honeymoon. A lot of couples I know took a honeymoon later for different reasons and it wasn’t a big deal.
I definitely understand, though, how you feel because at first when he told me we would jsut have to see, I was a little upset because it’s your honeymoon and that’s how I’ve always pictured it. When it comes down to it, it’s really not a big deal when you take it, you’re still married and had a wonderful wedding day and at that point, it just comes down to what you want to do.
Make your decision based on what really works best with your schedule for the wedding day. October might be busy with school and if that’s the case, wait until December. December will be busy for the holidays so really look into what December will be like for yall and also compare prices.
Post # 5
I’d move my wedding date.
I personally wouldn’t want to get married and then have to go back to classes / work / normal life on Monday. The break to relax and enjoy time with your new husband is really important, IMO – whether it is a formal fancy honeymoon trip or not. So if I couldn’t get that “break” in October (which it sounds like you can’t), I’d move the wedding to December when we’d have a break.
Post # 6
Could you get married before he starts grad school, so you would have a late summer wedding and you would still have time to go on your honeymoon before classes start. Late summer is much closer to fall than December. Just another idea to throw in the mix!
Post # 7
@eeestrad:Don’t stress! My fiance was in Afghanistan and we had to push the wedding back a FULL year because he left a month before our intended wedding date. We are now getting married this coming May and arent taken our honeymoon until early July because of previous commitments. But if you feel like your going to be stressed, push the date back. Its YOUR wedding and it has to be what makes you both happy!
Post # 8
Vet school caused me to wait three years. Longest engagement ever!!!!!!!!!!!! But we are almost there. And if I had it to do over I would have waited another year and done it in 2013!
Post # 9
I can definitely relate to his situation, and I definitely say you should move your date! Right now I’m an undergrad/grad student–I’m doing a fifth year masters of science degree and am taking graduate courses while I finish up my undergrad (this is my senior year). May 2012 I will gradute with a masters.
I can tell you right now, graduate school is going to be busy. I can’t imagine getting married in the middle of the school year. It would be an incredible stress to add to an already stressful situation.
I say have your wedding and honeymoon in December. I think it would be kind of a killjoy to get married over the weekend and then BAM–back to school again on Monday! You’re going to want that week-long honeymoon right afterward to keep up your newlywed high! Plus it will be nice for him to have a week or so off from school right before the wedding–because that week is gonna be hectic too!
Post # 10
We are in a similar situation, I’m going to be graduating a few weeks before the wedding (not that big of a problem) but the Tuesday after the wedding I’m going to start taking bar review classes. Honeymoon will be in August after that’s over with. I’m a little bummed about not going on the honeymoon right away but it’s either that or get married in August which also sounds like a pain.
Does he get a fall break? Even a 3 or 4 day weekend could work, just might be a little hectic! Also you should be prepared to do the majority of the last minute stuff without a lot of help from him. But if you’d rather do that then move it to December, go for it.