Hi @chocolatejazz: First and foremost… CONGRATULATIONS on your Marriage.
Mr Bee is actually the Hubby of MRS BEE the founder of WBee.com
He is an amazing guy… he should post more often… his posts are always great
Mr Bee’s Plan is a classic
As an Older Bee (I am an Encore Bride… and over 50)… I find it sad that not enough women know this stuff regarding
HOW MEN’S MINDS WORK
Somehow in the last few decades it has been very fashionable for women to take a greater role in society… and manage to keep our feminity (all good)
BUT at the same time we’ve cast aside true knowledge about how men think
Once upon a time, this was the kind of stuff that Grandmothers, Aunts & Mothers told the coming of age women in their families
Sadly, a lot of women interpret such info as “not being genuine” or “playing games”… it isn’t it is just understanding how men tick, and using that knowledge to our advantage.
We can still be 100% ourselves (infact this is what men LOVE when women are confident enough to be who we are… different from everyone else in pack)
Sure, the world has change… and men are more intouch with their feelings / emotions…
BUT the truth is they are still men… and not us. THEIR HUMAN NATURE IS DIFFERENT
THEY DON’T THINK LIKE WE DO
If we approach them in the same way we would approach a problem as a woman, we are waaay off base
We need to think like men at times in our lives to communicate better with them, and get the results we want.
Plain and simple… they are hunters. They enjoy the pursuit… and they like a cagey prey.
As another Bee wrote recently… they aren’t thrilled bringing home “road kill”
By extension they want a woman they can show off… for the unique creature she is… they want the world to take note they caught “a good one”
It is all wrapped up in their incredibly complex male egos (well complex if you never learn how to read em… otherwise it isn’t that complicated… men are really pretty basic creatures… if all be told)
We women are smart… afterall we are “the gatherers”
If we learn the signs, we can remember the keys as to when the fruits are in season… and what we need to gather them
And so it is with men. Learn they language / tell signs, and we can turn the tables, and make things less frustrating in dealing with them…
And consequently have things work in our favour more often.
Nothing wrong with that.
Especially if it makes for an easy going relationship made up of give and take… with each person bringing to the table their best qualities.