Post # 1
So, I decided to implement the Mr. Bees backup plan, as the title says, because I’m not sure how serious my BF thinks I am about an e-ring (at the very least), before moving in together (he’s buying a house and he wants me to move in). I am in Nursing school right now, and I graduate in Dec (YAY!!!). As many of you know, Im originally from San Diego, so I told him that I would be applying for some jobs out there once I’m finished with school. I’m hoping this will nudge him in the right direction of proposing soon. Because Ive wanted to move back home, close to my family for a few years now (I have no family here in Ms). And if we arent headed in the engagement direction soon, theres really no point in staying so far from firends and family… right? I guess we will see how successful this plan turns out pretty soon. But Im thinking he wont be okay with me leaving.
Post # 3
Good luck! You should try and think about what is best for you, since moving in with him might be dangerous if you don’t have a commitment together and no means of support yourself.
Post # 4
Good for you.
I wouldn’t move in with FI until we were engaged, and at first, he thought that I meant I would move in with him if it lead to engagement… he was wrong! when he really got it, it took about two minutes, litteraly, and we were engaged – without a ring, but we went and got one right after..
Hope it works for you!
Post # 5
haha that’s what happened with my fi and me. He and I had been dating for only 4 months when I told him I wanted to move back “home” about 6 months later. That pushed him to propose two months later! It was so special and beautiful and perfect.
Good luck with you!!
Post # 6
I hope Mr.Bees plan works! I think it will because he’ll definately miss you and want you to decorate with him! 🙂 Congrats on finishing nursing school.
Post # 7
first, congrats on finishing nursing school! i should be finishing grad school in december so i can relate to the sheer joy. second, i wish you the best of luck with your plan. either way you’re enriching yourself so i hope you get exactly what you hope for. please keep us updated!
Post # 8
Thanks bees… Ill keep you all informed of the outcome.
Post # 9
Good lucking implementing Mr. Bee’s strategy! I hope it works for you 😉
Post # 10
Best of luck with that plan, and do let us know how it goes…
Post # 11
Good luck!! And don’t forget to implement the rest of the Backup Plan: to spend time with your girlfriends, to get out of the house doing interesting things, and to invest in yourself and your hobbies!
Post # 12
@Mr. Bee: thanks for the advice… will do!
Post # 13
I also told FI that I would never live with a guy unless we were engaged. I stuck to my guns, and got my ring. When he proposed he said he was tired of not being able to be with me everyday. Out of all his friends, they all have live in girlfriends which they have been with for years longer than us. I am the only one who is engaged, and I firmly believe because I refused to move in together. The other girls are stuck now just hoping and powerless. If you are going to commit to this man by relocating and being away from your friends and family, he needs to step up to his side of the bargain.
Post # 14
I think you have to do what is right for you and that you are making the right choice.
I agree with your backup plan… if he is not ready to committ then why should you be so far away from friends and family.