Post # 1
I am having a rough morning. As you may know, BF isn’t ready to make plans for a wedding. He likes my ideas for one, and loves me and cares but isn’t ready. FIRST he has to sort out financial things with his ex. Damn. They are still entangled in a money/property way. I’ve told him I don’t like this and wonder what’s taking him so long (but said it in a much nicer way).
I had coffee with a friend yesterday. She had some interesting ideas. 1) Let him know that I’d go live by myself until he gets this sorted out, if I had the money to do so (which I don’t). 2) Step back a bit and make it a little uncomfortable for him, i.e., don’t go for walks with him every evening, just ever other. Or, let him do his own laundry for a while. I did #1 but I’m not sure how to do #2. So far I’ve just shirked my part of the household chores today.
I like what Mr. Bee said about getting involved in my own life. I am really short on cash (working part time and just applied for a new job that would give me a lot more). I’m feeling, well, a pity party coming on because I can’t have what I want right now (engagement, ring shopping, wedding planning, etc.). Also, in my Saturday morning review of my finances, I discovered I’ve now passed the $400 dollar mark in wedding related expenditures.
Any suggestions of how I can spend my weekend other than pity partying?
Post # 3
What about taking a day out to spend with the girls? Plan a days worth of activities and just have fun. Or spend some time cooking (if you like that) or writing or doing any sort of activity that YOU enjoy doing.
Post # 4
Thanks littlemissmoo. Good idea. My problem is that I have one local friend and we got together yesterday…and my other close girlfriends live out of state and out of the country. Maybe I will just have to take myself out!
Post # 5
Absolutely! Take yourself to a bookshop, buy something fun and read in a coffee shop. Or go out to the garden centre and do some gardening. Or take a camera and just roam around. 😀 Hope you have fun! All my girlfriends live in different cities/countries than me too so I totally understand the feeling of weekend self-pity. I hope some of those suggestions make for a fun next weekend 😉
Post # 6
I know how tough it is doing things in your own life when you don’t have much money. Maybe going out on your own and buying something for yourself? Or going to a nice meal?
Post # 7
Maybe sign up for an activity you like that would get you to meet people? That way you do something for yourself, and you might make some local friends, which never hurts.
Post # 8
When I bored and feeling down I go shopping. I like to go to the thrift store. Hunting for bargains things takes my mind off my wait. I’ll go plop down with a stack of books at the book store too. Been wanting to get a makeover at the makeup counter but haven’t done that yet. I did go get a bra fitting however and wished I’d done it sooner. Basically I’m doing things that I may not have time for once we are engaged and planning other things.
Post # 9
Save up and go to the spa one month. Pampering yourself will make you feel SO much better!
Just to to the nail salon if you wear nails. Anytime I spend time on myself, I feel SO much better. Plan a vacation!