- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Mr CL and I had decided quite a while ago that we wanted to try and write our own vows to one another, as it was important to us that our wedding reflected us and our relationship, and not someone else’s preordained version of “what marriage is”. As a little background to us, Mr CL and I met on 20 July 2003 – 10 years ago to the day of our wedding last Saturday, and we were best friends for years before we became a couple. We took a gap year and travelled around Europe together before we went to university and had a long distance relationship for 3 years. We graduated 2 years ago and have been living together since.
We agreed a couple of ground rules, so that our vows complemented and reflected one another, but we didn’t know what the other had written until the ceremony. We each made 10 promises to one another, with a short introduction and conclusion (we both did ‘essay subjects’ at university!) and we each added the same final line to our vows. I thought it would be really difficult, but I found that once I started thinking about what our relationship is all about, it flowed so easily.
I may possibly have teared up slightly during the vows. I was so happy with how they turned out! I discovered later that day that Mr CL finished writing his the morning of the wedding! I think we reflected one another’s promises really well, and most people assumed we had agreed them ahead of time.
Mr CL’s vows to clumsylawyer
Clumsylawyer. I stand before you and before our family and friends all of whom have come here to see us married. I make these promises to you in front of everyone.
I promise to let you know how much I love you, how much I want to be with you and how beautiful you are.
I promise to hold you close to me, whenever you are sad or scared, happy, lonely or when you just want a hug.
I promise to go travelling with you again because I enjoyed that time with you so very much.
I promise to continue being as silly as ever so that we never taken ourselves too seriously.
I promise to be your friend, first and above all else, for friendship is the very basis of our relationship.
I promise to laugh with you and to make you laugh because I want our lives to be full of joy.
I promise to keep my curly, curly hair for as long as I possibly can.
I promise to enjoy the silly things that you think make me cute.
I promise to say the things that make you cry with happiness and joy, and to comfort you when you cry from sadness.
I promise to cherish our time together, our time with our families, and our time with our friends, because all those moments are special and worth remembering.
These are just some of the things that I think are important and I wanted to share them with you.
I love you clumsylawyer, I make these promises to be kept throughout our lives together. I give you this ring as a sign of our love, trust and marriage.
Clumsylawyer’s vows to Mr CL
Mr CL. Today, I take you to be my husband, and offer you everything that I am and that I have in return. I love you unconditionally and without hesitation and make these promises before our friends and family, with whose support we will build our life together.
I promise that our life will be an adventure, and I am excited to explore new places with you.
I promise to support and encourage you in all you do, and to celebrate your victories and mourn your losses as if they were my own.
I promise to listen to you and try not to interrupt.
I promise to laugh with you and to make our home a joyful place.
I promise to continue to share our love of reading, and one day to share it with our children.
I promise to care for you when you are unwell, or more likely to be a good patient when you care for me.
I promise not to be embarrassed that we met at maths camp.
I promise to try and stay awake through films you want me to watch.
I promise to go climbing with you and not complain when I ache the next day.
I promise to kiss you every morning before I leave for work and every night before I sleep.
You are my past, present and future; my lover, confidante and friend and I am proud to be able to call myself your wife.
I give you this ring as a sign of our love, trust and marriage.