(Closed) Mr. Fish is planning to join the Marines…

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

@Miss Fish: wow Hi. Umm… Good luck. I know us military bees are here for you. I don’t see why you can get married in 2014

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@Miss Fish: Its hard but do able. My fi isn’t deployed but his unit is. His bestfriend is his Best man. So I’m planning around a deployment for someone I’ve never met

Best advice. Stay busy.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Does he have a degree already?  Will he be going in as an officer or enlisted?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It takes a strong woman to back up her man in such a huge decision as this! But you’ve also helped *push* him to take action in him enlisting to be a Marine, which is something he’s obviously been passionate about. Blessings to you and your future Marine! Seems like you two make a great support team!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Miss Fish: Put military clauses in all of the contracts. I’m worried that his itch will get so bad that he will want to go.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Oh Miss.Fish, one of my most favorite bees, I can’t even imagine how you must be feeling right now. It is incredible that you are really pushing him to do what he loves, even if it does happen to take him away from you.

I don’t have any advice about the Marines part but just know that I’m thinking about you <33

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

His uniform will look great with your vintage dresses ๐Ÿ™‚ (I hope those were your posts!)

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

{{{Big hugs}}}, and yay you for supporting his dream ๐Ÿ™‚

The questions you have for the recruiter seem like a good start (‘cept it’s boot, not basic!).  What kind of contract is he looking at?  Infantry or something else?  I’d have a chat with Mr Fish today about what job he wants when he goes in.  If he’s going enlisted:

I’d ask specifics about timings – when is he likely to ship (to boot camp)?

when will he go to School of Infantry?  How much leave will he get once SOI is completed?

What MOS (military operational speciality) does he want – basically the job he’ll do in the Corps?  Where and how long is the MOS school?

Where is he likely to be stationed when he hits the fleet?  Could his orders possibly be unaccompanied (ie the Corps sends him somewhere like Okinawa where you can’t go with him)?

Also, his MOS may dictate the likelihood of a deployment.  Some MOS’s just don’t deploy, others he may find himself in a unit that’s just come back from a deployment and won’t be due for another one for a while, some he might hit the fleet and then deploy almost immediately – in which case it will be better for the both of you if you’re married by then, and believe me, trying to arrange a wedding when he’s trying to get into a deployment headspace is not easy.

I’d also ask the recruiter’s opinion about *when* to get married – assuming s/he’s not a cynical and salty old dog that thinks marriage is the devil’s work – as it will probably be easier on Mr Fish if you two are legally bound (if not with a “proper” wedding, then at least a courthouse quickie) already, than trying to get you added to orders once he’s in the fleet.  Plus it’ll stop his First Sergeant getting a headache trying to file the paperwork, and it always pays to keep the 1stSgt happy ๐Ÿ™‚

Sorry for the essay, and sorry if i sound like a Debbie Downer, just wanted to give you some perspective and ideas for questions to the recruiter.  This is definitely gonna be a challenge for you, but you’ll come out the other end stronger ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

How much longer does he have to finish his degree?  I know his heart might not be in accounting, but three years of schooling is alot to walk away from.  I’m not sure if the Marines have a program like the Army does, but he could always finish his accounting degree and than go straight into OCS (Officer Candidate School) and branch into whatever the Marines need him for. 

If he doesn’t want to be an officer, I would still advise for him to finish his degree, and than enlist.  In the Army, the more college classes you have the more “points” you’ll get for promotion.  When I first enlisted, those who entered with a 2 year degree came in as an E-4, which is 1.5 years ahead of those who entered with no college classes.  It does make a difference in pay and benefits (BAH). 

Good luck!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If my hubby’s terrible admin section can get us added in (for them anyway!) relatively quickly, you can wait until the fleet. 

Benefits to being married is increased BAH but not significantly.  And you can go with him when he PCS’s.  You get access to information when they’re deployed, which is good. If he’s deployed, he gets family separation pay after 4 or 6 weeks (I forget) and you get Tricare.  That’s about it.

After talking to a recruiter (make sure he knows what to say when the SNCO says “why should I let you join my Marine Corps?”) he’ll have to take the ASVABS which will sort of dictate what MOSs are open to him.

It would be VERY unlikely he’ll go to boot camp this summer – it gets very full.  When my husband was working recruiting detail there were long waits for boot camp unless you were a female or reservist.  Boot camp, if he doesn’t get recycled, is 3 months…then you usually get a little leave and then go to SOI/MCT depending on your MOS and then MOS school if you aren’t infantry. He wouldn’t deploy until hitting the fleet and even then he’d have to train for the deployment, which is about 3 months for the most part. 

Good luck.  Parris Island is the most challenging place on earth.  My husband broke both his legs at OCS in Quantico but still says after 8 weeks of that it was still easier than PI.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@jindc: eek.. how did he break his legs?!

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