Post # 1
I’m starting to address invitations envelopes and having a real hard time finding the ‘right’ way on this. I’ve seen so many different ways I don’t know which way is nicer. Here is the site I’ve been looking off of – http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/addressing-wedding-invitations.aspx?MsdVisit=1
We don’t have an inner envelope, jus the outside envelope and invitation inside. It is an formal spring wedding but I like the idea of including the womens name on the envelope.
suggestions are helpful 🙂 thanks
Post # 3
You could do a hybrid and say: Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe.
Post # 4
I had two envelopes, so I put both names on the inside, but I’m an old fashioned girl, and I like the Mr, & Mrs. John Smith. For married couple with different last names I used Mr. John Doe & Mrs. Jane Smith.
Post # 5
I like Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe. That’s how we did ours and I thought it looked really nice.
I would just like to stick in a plea here to somehow include the woman’s name on the envelope (as you seem to want to).
I’m all for “it’s your wedding and you can do it HOWEVER you want” but I am not Mrs. HisFirst HisLast, nor will I ever be. I changed my LAST name for the sake of ease and for our future children, but giving up my first name too, that’s like giving up my entire identity into his. And that is NOT the way this works anymore. In complete honesty, it offends me every time someone addresses me without my name (including my future sister in law whose wedding invite I got yesterday).
Again – it’s your wedding, do what you like. But it really hurts to feel like I have been subsumed by my husband just because I gave up my last name and makes me regret the decision every time I see that.
Post # 6
@iRun2004: I agree – I prefer not to be called Mr. and Mrs. His Name .. where in the world is my first name? hehe so not fair and a bit rude.
Thank you all for suggestions and benefits of different usage for the envelopes- I believe I’ll change it to Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe- I know that’ll take up more space on the envelope but at least it includes both his and her name.
Post # 7