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**disclaimer: I'm getting married in 17 days and I'm feeling a bit stressed. This woman is a psycho and I hate that she's coming to my wedding but there's nothing I can do about it. Usually I try to be compassionate and understanding, but Mrs. Crazy brings out the worst in me. Therefore, this post definitely does not showcase me at my best. Also, this is part of a like, 8 month saga, so if you're a newcomer---please don't judge me too harshly. You don't understand.**
FMIL planned to seat Mrs Crazy at her "head" table. ((You know, the one with FMIL, FFIL, and grandparents)). I let it slide...I mean, if FMIL wants to sit with Mrs. Crazy it's her prerogative to do so. So I said "whatever" and put it out of my mind.
Well, lucky for me, Mrs. Crazy opened her crazy mouth and ticked off FMIL. I couldn't have planned it better myself! FMIL and Mrs. Crazy exchanged a few emails about the wedding/travel plans/whatever.....and Mrs. Crazy said: "Yes, it will be nice to watch our son get married. But too bad little Miss. Crazy isn't his bride!!!!! I guess the wedding will be bittersweet"
Three little sentences with three huge no-no's in each. First of all, FI was delivered by one woman....not two. You're not his mother, stop pretending----it's not healthy. Secondly, FI is not marrying, has never wanted to marry, and will never marry little Miss. Crazy. Thirdly, the wedding isn't bittersweet for anyone but you. It's just sweet. You can be bitter....but it will only add more wrinkles to your already aging face.
So, with 17 days to go....Mrs. Crazy did herself in. Yes, she's still coming. But no, she won't be sitting front and center.
All this and I've never even met her! Ugh....
Oh VirginiaMarie, I feel for you! I would knock that b*tch out!!! Man. Some people.
Ugh, so frustrating!!! Just try to ignore her for the whole night!!
well I'm sure your wedding will be sweet and your meeting with Mrs. crazy will be bitter, ergo bitter sweet wedding for her.
DANG.
I have been following your Mrs. Crazy saga from day one and have to say... it's better than a soap opera! Glad someone else is getting to see her true colors at last, though. It seemed for a while like you were the only one.
O.M.F.G. Well, at least the crazy has expanded to include your FMIL and you have a partner in crime in hating on Mrs. Crazy.
Wow - I hope she doesn't say anything to you guys in the receiving line that's as off-base as everything else she's done so far.
If so, don't let it ruin your day - after the wedding, Mrs. Crazy is out of your life forever!
OMG! I cannot believe that she said that! At least your MIL is totally on your side and sees Mrs. Crazy for what she is... Crazy!
Your stories just get better and better! Glad she wont be front and center!
@VirginiaMarie: I am so sorry you are still going through this. I have been following this saga since it started. She will probably do herself in worse at your wedding. I can hardly wait for the finale. This would make a good movie
So glad that Mrs. Crazy won't be at the head table and FMIL is ready to throw her out of the reception. It may happen and you may not know about it that day, so it could all work out.
Just a thought - are you having a DOC or anyone else that you trust enough to tell them "keep THAT woman away from me"?
OH. MY. GOD!!
I cannot believe the nerve of this woman! Ok, I certainly don't know what it's like to lose a child, but she cannot stop pretending that your FI is her son! Especially saying that to HIS mother! Can you imagine what your MIL feels like right now after saying that? And I just don't know how you are keeping your cool with yet ANOTHER reference to him marrying her daughter. This woman is delusional.
VM - it will be over in 17 days...just keep counting down. Question - did his mom call you and tell you this, or did your FI? At least you have her on your side since FI keeps feeling sorry for Mrs. Crazy. Absolutely insane...my mouth fell to the floor when I read the part about Little Miss Crazy. The gall! It would take everything in my power not to punch her right out at the wedding.
SHUT UP!! Mrs. Crazy said that to your FMIL!! What the hell is this woman thinking? She is lucky she didn't get univited. First she claims someone else's child...THEN she tries to "slam" you by mentioning Crazy-ette...THEN she implies that your FMIL is not totally happy about the wedding. Gee whiz this lady is crazy. I mean...her previous antics were bad enough but she has completely lost her damn mind now.
She would be so far in the back of the room....I wouldn't even know she was there if it were me.
You know, its sad....because if she wasn't so crazy and malicious...we could have been friends. (and by we, I mean me, FI and the Crazies). Their past is tragic and very sad....if they feel that close to FI, they needed to go about it differently. If she was a nice person, I would be sure to have FI keep in touch with her--send her photos, Christmas cards---etc. But she's crazy---so now we want nothing to do with her.
OH MAN. This woman is nuts! I CANNOT believe everything that this woman you have never met has put you through! That email is ridiculous...like really?! Why would someone write that about your wedding (or anyone's wedding for that matter)...oh yeah...because she is crazy! On a happier note though, at least this time her craziness worked in your favor and you can hate on her with your FMIL! Soon Mrs. Crazy will be out of your life and you will never have to think/speak/whatever about her again!
Wow.
"Our son?"
I was intially a touch sympthetic for Mrs. Crazy, but this is about 100 miles over any kind of line.
I felt bad for Mrs. Crazy for about 5 seconds when I heard her son passed away, but she is seriously whacked out, selfish and crazy. This is YOUR wedding, not hers!! She has serious issues and need professional help. I mean that comment was beyond rude, uncalled for and messed up.
It will be very difficult, but try to be gracious when you meet her, and make sure one of your BM's whisks you away the second after you do!
Yes, for sure. I'm so glad someone is peeved with her and that I'm not alone in this! She's just, literally, so freaking crazy.
I used to feel bad for this woman. It is hard to lose a child and I got the feeling she was trying to replace the experiences she lost with her son with those she can have with your FI. However, now I think she is just batshit crazy. I am so sorry that you have to deal with her. At least you have FMIL on your side now. You'll get through this, please don't let her ruin your day.
Look on the bright side...Mrs. Crazy will literally be SURROUNDED with people who love and support you and your FI completely. If she steps out of line...there are more than enough people redily available to put her in check.
I wonder what her husband has to say about all of this? As her spouse, I am surprised that he hasn't tried to reign her in or at least let her know she is being disrespectful and crossing lines left and right. Then again...we don't know if she even shares the e-mails and FB postings with her husband.
To those who feel bad for her: It's two fold....part of me feels bad for her too. You have to be hurting quite a bit to make such an ass out of yourself time and time again. But, she's just so inconsiderate to anyone's feelings but her own. Our wedding, and our marriage, have nothing to do with her. She needs to come, be quiet, think back fondly on FI's and son's relationship, and then go home. The end.
Hey, I wonder what she'll WEAR? $20 says she'll be decked out in a typical mother's outfit!
OMG! SERIOUSLY?! What a NUTCASE.
I'm so sorry you have to share your day with this psychotic woman. It's really too bad that she didnt piss off your FMIL earlier, so that the 2 of you could have convinced your FI not to invite her. Just sit them in a back corner and ignore them.
@JamaicaBride: FMIL says her husband is very level headed, very no-nonsense guy. She said he reminds her of a Mr. Big from SATC. He's a big wig corporate America guy and apparently, FMIl isn't concerend about Mrs. Crazy acting out because her husband wouldn't allow it to happen in the first place.... I don't know.
I can almost guarantee she'll be in a mother of the bride/groom dress. She does think she's the mother of your grom afterall!
I honestly still cannot believe that she's said that to your FMIL. Do you and your FMIL have a good relationship? It sounds like you do...so WHY would she say something like that? She's just crazy...cra-zy!
I think you'll be lucky if she's wearing a mother of the groom dress... I'm thinking she'll show up in white... or probably put her daughter in white since she thinks her daughter ought to be the bride!
@Moose1209: I think she's like a skinny blonde old-lady hottie....so she might go for a sexy look. UGH. vomit.
A mother's dress? No no no, I'll put twenty bucks down that she comes in a floor length ivory gown!
I have also been following the Mrs. Crazy saga since you first shared it with the hive. This woman is off her rocker, but at least now FMIL KNOWS it is ALL Mrs. Crazy and has nothing to do with you.
Watch her show up wearing the exact same Mother dress as either your Mom or your FI's Mom! (If she does, can you please take pics!?!?!)
This woman should have her own wacked out reality show, for sure. Ugh.
Oh VirginiaMarie....i have been following your saga since day one....I cant believe it!!!
wow. seriously my guilty pleasure is clicking on the Mrs. Crazy stories. this lady is a. piece. of. work.
wow. at least FMIL is on your side too LOL
GEEZ what a bitch! It's so rude that she keeps trying to talk about your guy marrying someone other than you. I feel bad for her daughter who probably wants nothing to do with her crazy mom's mouth. I wouldn't be surprised if she showed up carrying a picture of her daughter photoshopped in a wedding dress with your husband!
@daydreamwanderer: That's my bet too. The dress WILL be ivory...unless Mr. Not Crazy steps in and doesn't let her pack anything inappropriate.
@JamaicaBride: umm.... I don't think Mr Crazy has much say in their lives. Surely he would've smacked some sense into his wife by now if he did! I'd guess he's a sad, brow beaten little man. (*Note* - I don't condone the smacking of one's wife.)
I get that Mrs. Crazy has gone thru a lot & I do feel sorry for her & the tragic loss of her son, but that's no excuse for what she's doing/saying. At all. I guess I could kinda see how she attached to your FI since they were the same age-ish... but hasn't she not spoke with him til recently? I don't get at all why she would say she's his mom.
At least you will be so busy with getting married & family & friends that you probably won't even have to talk to her :). I'd let a few people know to keep her away from you! You might want to let your photographer know too, cause if she says she is his mom, you don't want her to sneak into the group pics.
A wedding is a celebration between the couple, if she doesn't want to celebrate YOU than she should be uninvited. Maybe her plane will be delayed.
I'm glad you're able to laugh it off (for the most part at least)... just don't let her get to you or upset you or stress you. Its 1 day you'll see her & then never ever again.
& if her or her daugher come dressed in ivory or white, they should be asked to leave!
@serabell: Yes! Other than recently, it's been at least 5 years since FI has spoken to them. Weird. GREAT point about the photographs. Hoenstly, is she's even in one profressional photo it'll be ruined. Thanks!!!
Sweet merciful crap! How could this saga get any worse?!?
Kudos to you, VM, for handling all of this so well.
I can't BELIEVE she said anything about Miss Crazy to your MIL. Who does that??? Sometimes I think that people say stuff like that not expecting a response. Did your MIL say anything??? Something like "Actually, we love VM. She's a wonderful person, makes our son happy and is a great addition to our family. This wedding is definitely sweet for US." as that is what I would say. THE NERVE of people.
So, where are you going to seat her now? Next to the kitchen? Bathroom? Out on the lawn?
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