Post # 1
LONG freaking post. Sorry, so sorry bees. But I NEED to get this out.. NEED TO!
So long story short, my Dad nor any of his side of the family came to my wedding. I was hurt by this. He told me VIA facebook that one day he would explain?!?!?!? Whatever.
My step dad sure as hell was there & he walked me down the isle! (And has been my dad since I was 9!) But if my dad came my papaw or maybe my mom was going to walk me down OR both my dad & step dad. I was going to make it work either way so no one got hurt!
Fast forward… I see my dad has started dating someone (Few weeks after or maybe months I don’t remember our wedding.) Guess what the anniversary says under (my dad’s name here is in a relationship.) December 11th, 2010. She (his gf tells me that is the day of their first date.) Also my wedding anniversary. 🙁 I was hurt, again. But I moved on. Because I am one to hold things in & not say anything to anyone about it.
Now they are engaged. I find this out how.. VIA FACEBOOK! He doesn’t tell me over the phone??? He doesn’t tell me AT ALL he just changes his status. 🙁 Again I am hurt by this. But I will move on and forget about it. I am happy for him I REALLY am. But I can’t help but be hurt.
Now that I finally added her to facebook she is talking to me about how we need to meet. Because she is going to be my step mother. UGH I am a grown woman. So please just say something along the lines of we are going to be family soon we need to meet and move on. :/
I know alot of this goes a way back but I can’t help it. I know some of you will say this is all old stuff (well some of it) and to move on. But I just needed to vent. 🙁 That is all.
P.s Not to mention that she told me she has been in love with my dad for 20 years… UHM MY MOM AND DAD WAS MARRIED THEN DAMMIT!
Oh and I know the REAL reason my dad and his side of the family never came to our wedding. My Papaw (My dad’s dad) is a preacher and has married everyone in the family on that side including my mom and dad. But I haven’t seen them in years & didn’t feel comfortable doing that. Plus I wanted to get married in Virginia where my papaw could not marry us nor even know how to get to if he could. And more reasons but this post is long enough.
Sorry, I am. I usually don’t do this much but I couldn’t help it.
Post # 3
He went on date on your wedding! Oh my lord. You are better than I, because I would have flipped out. I also wouldn’t carry on a relationship with people who treated me that way.
Post # 4
I am so sorry, this all must be terribly painful. I don’t think that alot of the hurt that you feel is old news at all, no just the oposite. I think that every stick of the pin is just as hurtful as the first stick. My dads family is, how to put it nicely, disfunctional at its best. If you need to talk PM me. I am always here, day or night.
Post # 5
I probably would have lost my shit, too.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
Oh that is big news to take. I’m sorry hon! How frustrating. 🙁
You are being the bigger person by meeting the new step-mum, but wow.. your dad has some serious explaining to do, in my opinion.
Post # 7
You’re too nice @Sweet.Sugar.Rose: you’re just too nice. I would have ended the relationship after the whole anniversary of their dating being your wedding. Not cool.
Post # 8
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: *hugs* I’m so sorry, Mrs. Estep. You have every right to be sad/upset. You seem to be giving much more/putting more into this relationship. I understand a bit since my father and his family are, like tks said, disfunctional. I hope that you feel better soon, you’re such a dear on the WB and it’s terrible that your family can make you feel so sad 🙁
Post # 10
I am so upset that you have this stuff going on!
You are a grown and married women, who is as sweet as pie itself.
I would atleast tell your Dad how you feel, and make sure you choose how much involvement you want in your dads new relationship.
*Hugs and prayers *
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I agree with everyone who has said that you are doing an amazing job of being the bigger person. I don’t think I could be as gracious as you have been. Know that we’re here if you need to vent about this stuff! And I’m sending lots of hugs and good thoughts your way! This whole situation just sucks.
Post # 12
I’m sorry to hear about all that. You’re so sweet and kind and I don’t like that anyone is hurting your feelings. >:(
You have every right to be upset and vent all you want. Bah. The “PS” especially rubbed me the wrong way, too.
Post # 13
I would be pissed! im so sorry your going through this. Just remember, the people who obviously care about you, were there the day you got married.
Post # 14
I’m still stuck at the date on your wedding day. I would totally call him out for that.
Post # 15
@mwitter80: Thank you. I try not to be to involved with them at all period. But she added me & we started talking & it all just hit me 1000 times again. :/
@tksjewelry: Thank you so, so very much! I know now that I can always talk with you if I need to. & That means alot to me! 🙂
@jaguar: I am just going to let it all go. As usual. Maybe one day he will look back and see that he was the one who missed out, not me. Hoping anyways. :/
@jacinda10: Thank you! You guys always have such the sweetest things to say!
@indibee: Thank you for all of your kind words. It means alot.
@Rouquine: (((Hugs right back!))) & I love all of you!!!!
@Eva Peron: Thank you so much! You guys are just always so kind! I tried to keep from adding her to facebook. But she kept adding me, so finally I added her back. :/ I will try to keep my distance though.
@parasol: Thank you for everything you said! You ladies are awesome!!
@Juliepants: Thank you. Yes, the P.S part I wrote about weirded me out. :/
@Mrs.T To Bee: Exactly! 🙂
@kay01: Ah. :/ I will let it go.
Post # 16
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: I found out years after my parents divorced that my dad had cheated and with whom. His secretary told me two seconds before I fired her ass, I don’t care how long it had been, she had no right to tell my dads personal business, especially to his daughter. I was still broken hearted and still am. So I especially understand how things can still be painful no matter how long it has been.