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Ms. Manners response to rude questions

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
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    bestforlast    January 11, 2011  

    I'm seeing so many posts about rude questions people ask and I want to respond to each of them with the sage advice Ms. Manners has offered over the years.

    When faced with an inappropriate, sensitive, or just plain rude question, throw the ball back and query, "Why do you ask?" This allows you to avoid the question and put the burden back on the asker. Hopefully this will make them see that the question was not appropriate. At worst, you can just nod in response to whatever they have to say for themselves.

    Give it a try.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Ah!  That's a great, simple idea.  I'm gonna try it!  Thank you.

     
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    neontl    April 2011   Seattle, WA

    @bestforlast - I love Miss Manners! A friend gifted me with her book "Miss Manner's Guide to an Even More Dignified Wedding" and read it cover to cover. For all etiquette questions on posts, I always think to myself, "What would Miss Manners say". 

    Yay - I love her advice and I'm glad to see others who love her too!

     
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    jackie-o    October 31, 2010   Seattle, WA

    this is GREAT thank you so much - - I haven't ever heard of Miss Manners.

    I hope all the ladies on the Hive that have posted threads re: people/strangers' rudeness asking about their e-ring details - - here is the most perfect answer "Why Do You Ask"  - -  If that doesn't stump them I don't know what will HAAHAHAHAHHAHA Laughing

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    oo a great response indeed! i will surely try it out!

     
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    mogget    June 11, 2011   TX

    That's a great idea! I haven't had any awkward or inappropriate questions yet, but I'm sure I will. When I do, I'll be prepared!

     
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    JustlikeHeaven    March 6, 2009  

    Great idea I will def use, thanks

     

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