Much older sister in wedding party?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
744 posts
Busy bee

c4rr134nn:  I would just tell her you’d love for her to be your Matron of Honor, and ask her if she’d like to do that.  Just be open to the possibility that she’d rather be involved in your wedding in some other capacity.  You might also tell her what would be involved.  Also consider the age-appropriateness of the dress you ask her to wear.

My half-sister is 17 years younger than me and will be in my wedding; when the time comes I would happily be in hers though I may not participate in things like the bachelorette (depending on the activity). 

Post # 3
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Not quite as big of a gap, but I had my much younger little sister as my maid of honor.  She was 17 and all the rest of the bridesmaids were my age (26).  When my little sister gets married, I would be hurt if she didn’t ask me, even though I probably would be a decade older then the other bridesmaids. I think she would be honored to be asked.  

Post # 4
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I definitely think you should ask her.  The one thing you might take in to consideration is not making your bridesmaids dresses look to young, or just picking a color and letting each girl wear something that suits her!

Post # 5
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My sister and I have a 16 year gap between us. I hope when she gets married and I am the older one in the wedding party she still wants to include me. She is going to be my only bridesmaid. I don’t think age should come into play here, she is still your sister.

Also, I don’t think you should ask her what part she wants to play, you should offer up to her what you want her to do. Asking her what she wants to do may make her feel uncomfortable and as if you haven’t chosen a spot for her.

Post # 6
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

c4rr134nn:  My sister and I have a 17-year gap, and we were both in each other’s weddings!  We had a blast — go for it!

Post # 7
2315 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My sister is 14 years older than me. She was 41 at my wedding. She wore the same dress as the rest of my bridesmaids (if she didnt feel comfortable I would have come up with an alternative). I would never have not considered asking her, but would have understood if she had said no. I was also in her wedding, but I was 8 at the time!

Post # 9
6632 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011


c4rr134nn:  That is not a huge deal or age gap to be honest. I am 40 almost 41 and I would have no issues with being in a bridal party who is their 20’s

Post # 11
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My FI’s sister is 50, and I am 25 (he is 35 – the “oops, I can still get pregnant?” baby!).  It’s going to be interesting for sure, especially when she is the closest to my FI (most times – but now they’re fighting) but she can’t stand the rest of her family.

I think you’re fine, OP!

Post # 12
2064 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

c4rr134nn:  sounds great! i dont see any reason why not, in fact i think your sister (esp if she is your only one) needs to be a BM. 😉 

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