Post # 1
I’m wavering on what to do for dinner at our reception and need some advice! We’ve got two options and don’t know which is better/easier. Just to give a bit of background, our reception is a somewhat formal sit down dinner, to be served by the wait staff.
First option is to give guests three options for dinner with the invitation (beef, chicken, and fish) and guests could choose which dinner they wanted on their response cards. We then got caught up in the details of how we’d know whether ‘John’ wanted steak or ‘Mary’ was the one who wanted steak. We also didn’t know how we’d designate this at the reception so the wait staff knew who got what dinner.
Second option was to choose a combo dinner and give everyone steak and chicken. No fuss, no designating dinners on place cards or trying to figure out which member of the party wanted which meal. Unfortunately, that option is a lot more expensive and we know a lot of people will probably only eat half the food.
So my question to you bees who have done the multiple dinner option: How did you set up your response cards to know what each guest wanted for dinner? And then, how did you designate that at the reception so the wait staff knew who got what dinner?
EDIT: Perhaps I should add that we’re wanting to do the first option although if it’s too complicated, we will do the second option.
Post # 3
We did escort cards with everyone’s assigned seating. Each couple got a escort card. We used little round colored dots and stuck them to the escort card in the bottom corner. Chicken was yellow, Steak was red, and fish was blue. The waitstaff then asked who was having what upon serving the guests. It was pretty easy.
Post # 4
@mwitter80: Thanks! That does sound pretty easy. I think we’re just getting caught up on the details of trying to give each individual a place card with the correct food designation on it. Go figure, trying to make things more complicated than they really need to be!
Post # 5
@Ree723: just sent the invitations out and they ask for people to initial next to their entree selection
Post # 6
I was thinking the same thing with the escort cards. I would do the color coded thing and go with the first option:)
Post # 7
I was going to do the combo plate (my FMIL says that by the day of the wedding, no one remembers what plate they chose and may get upset because they changed their mind)…but I feel like if I make the guest choose a plate, they will be less likely to RSVP yes and then not come.
Anyway my rsvp will follow this example:
Please help me proofread my invites before I print them all!!!
Post # 8
We had litte icons on our RSVP card, a carrot for the vegetarian option and a cow for the beef option. (People didn’t know what their dinner would be, though, just carrot or cow.)
I realized after we sent them out that we hadn’t specified a way to designate and I got worried for the same reasons you mention. As it turns out, though, there was no need to stress- every couple ended up ordering the same thing. Some just checked one box, some did a double check in the same box, some put their initials by the checkbox… in the end they were almost always the same though. Either both got beef or both got veg. Or, if one could come and the other couldn’t then it was easy to tell.
When it came time to let catering know I probably went overboard but here’s what I sent them…
– I made an aerial view mock up of our seating chart in excell, with the few names who wanted the veg option (9 out of 70 guests) in bold, and any allergies I was aware of in italics.
– I also made a word doc with table number, name, and picture of each of the vegetarian guests and guests with specific allergies (dairy, mushrooms, etc.) for the catering captain to have/for the waiters to consult before they brought meals out.
In the end, my helpful documents apparently still weren’t enough, so the morning of the wedding I made up simple small tent cards on pretty paper that just said “vegetarian” and had my DOC pass them out to just those people during cocktail hour. (She had the same names/pictures doc that I’d sent to the caterers.) We assigned tables but not seats, otherwise we would’ve put them right at their plates ahead of time. Instead, we asked them to put them in front of their plates when they sat down for dinner. Those that chose beef just didn’t have any card in front of their plate. We did have a couple of guests try to switch last minute when they saw the cards going out, and to be honest I don’t know how it was handled, I just know that it was. Blissful bride ignorance. 🙂
Anyway… sorry for the novel.. but that’s what we did and overall it worked really well! Let me know if you have any questions! 🙂