(Closed) Multiple family members in 1 house…..how many invites?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Send invites per:
    Household : (5 votes)
    26 %
    Individual : (3 votes)
    16 %
    Family Unit (ie dad+bro.....aunt+uncle) : (11 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    2543 posts
    Sugar bee

    I believe etiquette would dictate that anyone over the age of 16 in a household would get their own invite (or one per couple/couple & small children)

    However, I don’t think it really matters that much, especially if you’re on a budget and because they are untraditional living situations. Just send an invite to each household 🙂

    Post # 4
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Etiquette does dictate that each adult should get their own, but if you don’t think they’ll care, just send one.  I did those for some of my “failure to launch” male cousins that still live at home 😛  I doubt they were going to treasure it forever or anything like that.  Heck, one of them that does technically live in a separate residence, but supported by his parents didn’t bother to RSVP on his invite, and his mommy just added him onto hers.

    Post # 5
    530 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

    @colleen_cz:  Can I ask which culture?

    I’m mexican and here is perfectly fine, even expected to get an invite per household. I have a similar situation, two of my cousins, along with wifes and babies live with their parents, so there’s actually 3 families in one household, however we’re sending it to the family, so that includes everyone in the household. I don’t know about etiquette but here’s considered perfectly fine.

    Post # 7
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I would prob send them by family units. My FI’s aunt, uncle and cousin live with the cousins grandma (aunts mother) so were sending an invite to the grandma and then an invite to aunt, uncle and cousin even though it’s the same house. However that living situation sounds complicated and if they won’t really care or value the invite, just send one per household.

    Post # 8
    6 posts
    • Wedding: June 2001

    If the kids are still at home they are considered family so one invite but if the kids are older like college age or would bring a date then they get thier own invite. If they are older like grandma and uncle invite each. That is the way our family does it. Because then you get the ones that say “well i didn’t get invited” thier way of saying they didn’t want to go anyway.


    BUT when we had my parents anniversary party we sent out invites to the family>my dad has 14 brothers and sisters and my mom has 7 so there were quite a few cousins we just added on the invites that the extended family was invited for cocktails after 7 and to please let thier families know. Which for a wedding I don’t think I would do. We just had dinner for thier parents and brothers and sisters and thier aunts and uncles.

    Post # 9
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    We sent an invite to everyone, regardless of household. 

    If you want to save invites, I would do inner envelopes so you can write who is invited a bit more clearly. 


    Post # 10
    746 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Man, I hear you about how expensive invites are! I would just send one per household. I think we need to break free from the constraints of ‘etiquette’ and start doing things that are more environmentally and financially friendly!

    Post # 11
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My Fi’s sister/husband/child live with his parents. We sent one invite for the parents as a couple and one invite for sister/husband/kid as a family. Like one invite to Jane and John Doe, and another to The Smith Family.

    I wouldn’t dwell too much on the price of the invites because in the grand scheme of things, 5 more invites and 5 more stamps aren’t going to be what blows the budget. It’s a drop in the bucket.

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