- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Any advice on how to deal with a momzilla?
My mother has been “involved in every step of the way” of my sister’s wedding, and wants to do the same for me. I’ve discussed my wedding venues and she shut them all down. I showed her dress ideas, and she hated them all. I told her the food theme I wanted and she totally disagreed. Most of all, she’s insistent that I have my wedding at a venue she likes. She even spoke to the event coordinator and is pressuring me to put a down payment. I understand that since my parents’ are contributing money, they deserve a say, but it’s almost like she’s planning a wedding for herself. Nothing she wants is anything like my personality in the slightest and my calm explanations, bargaining, then full out arguing are completely ineffective at this point.
It’s a smaller wedding (80 people) and I want to accomodate for my family and friends so everyone can have a great time…but honestly, who’s wedding is this anyways??
I am usually very strong about my opinions, but I’m not used to accepting financial help from my parents. This is confusing territory for me.
I wrote on here a few months ago asking for advice on my sister’s blackmail (I wouldn’t move my date to another year so she hasn’t spoken to me in 3 months) and received some encouraging words. I don’t know what to do, I’m not receiving any positive support from my sister or my mother now. This wedding is becoming such an issue, I’ve even considered eloping just to avoid more drama!
Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated. Thank you 🙂