Post # 1
I’m currently having 2 showers – one for family and older family friends (thrown by my mom) and a friend shower (thrown by my friends and geared for a younger crowd).
I’m planning to invite my sister, my Future Mother-In-Law, my Future Sister-In-Law and my FI’s SIL to the family shower. What I’m wondering is – who of the family list am I supposed to invite to the friend shower (if any)?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t invite the same people to both showers except the bridal party and your parents (as long as they know you don’t need 2 gifts).
Post # 4
I’m not sure what the rule is, but I only invited the moms and the bridesmaids to both showers (one in the midwest where we live now and where my FH is from, one in my home state). I also told the BMs and my Future Mother-In-Law that there is NO expectation that they attend both showers. My mom, of course, is mandatory at both. 🙂
Post # 5
i agree with MissAsB. and i’m also fairly certain that i’ve read that in an etiquette book too. not that they are the end all, be all.
Post # 6
My mom, his mom, and his two sisters (my bridesmaids) were at all three showers. I felt a bit bad that they had to do all three, but I also realized they’d be more hurt not to attend. If you’re not close to your siblings/his siblings, don’t double invite, but try to think about it from their view – would they want to be there?