Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding in peak foliage season in my hometown. Great!
Problem is this: it’s not your standard “everyone stay in one hotel” situation. People could stay far-ish away (20-30 min drive) in an isolated ski area base lodge. Or they could stay in three or four small Inns that are really nice, but only fit 20-30 people in each. Therefor people will be split up and would need to drive 2-5 min or walk 20-30 min to get to other Inns we will reserve.
Is this no fun? My fiance’s mom and my fiance both feel that “their” half would really like to be all together in one place. I totally understand and respect this because they live far apart now and it’s a good family reunion.
Thoughts? Has anyone ever been to a wedding where people are in multiple hotels that you can’t necessarily just walk across the street to?
Post # 3
@rachel8813: Oh! And if we did do multiple Inns is it acceptable to micro-manage and “assign” housing so that we can get as many family members together that make sense to be together? Or do families tend to figure this out themselves?
Post # 4
Hi, We’re having a destination wedding in Key West and our guests are staying in multiple places. It’s all B&B (bed and breakfast) inns down there in Old Town Key West, and that’s exactly what I wanted. We actually rented out a full B&B which houses 32 people, and we’re having the reception there. In total, we’re looking at 75-80 guests. I saved the main house for immediate family, wedding party and a few friends. I ended up finding about 5 other places nearby that people could book and walk or take a short taxi ride over to us.
I think its totally fine to do it this way. Everyone will be celebrating with you the entire weekend it seems, it’s just a place to sleep. Not necessarily hang out all day. If you FI’s side wants to stay together, then I think you leave it up to his mom to orchestrate the whole thing, because that means people will need to book around the same time (unless they are letting you block rooms off). Thats absolutely not something you should have to add to your plate. I think the best you can do is to find a couple options, get all the info for your FMIL and then let her take it from there. Otherwise, you’ll spend all your time playing travel agent.
If you’re worried about people being too spread out, plan some activities that bring everyone together outside of your wedding. For instance, since everyone is traveling, we’re doing a welcome party the night before the wedding instead of a rehearsal dinner. That way, everyone can meet, mingle and catch up with one another. Then, the wedding will be like a giant party among friends. 😉
Post # 5
I think that it sounds cozy and fun to have your guests stay in somewhere that is completely filled with other wedding guests! I agree that helping to plan some activites or events that everyone could meet at one location together would help to ease the stress of the family members.
Post # 6
Thank you both!! Great to hear other people’s plans and I like the idea of the mixer Friday night. We have booked four entire inns and then people can just figure it out for themselves and yes have mom orchestrate if it’s important to her.
Post # 7
Just to follow up on what we did… we’ll see if it works out!
We booked 1 inn and future MIL assigned everyone that she wanted to stay there a room (and roomate sometimes!). Glad that they will be happy though. Have three other inns available then for the rest of our guests and my family to stay at. Only problem so far is that they will be a bit under-used and the one inn will be pretty packed but hopefully everyone is getting what they want!