(Closed) Multiple Unwanted Baby Showers

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just go along with them. These people want to do something to celebrate your new baby, let them. It’s fine.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just go along with it!  They want to celebrate your new baby in what should be (and I hope is) a very happy time!

If you truely don’t need anything else, you can return the gifts after the shower and use the store credit for diapers/wipes, new outfits as s/he outgrows what you currently have, etc.

IMO, there is no need to put a damper on these people’s happiness for you.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Let them celebrate! The point of a baby shower is not so much to give you things, it is for everyone to show you how happy they are for you.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

It’s nice of people to want to do this for you and it’s nice of you to go along with it. Perhaps you could donate gifts that you don’t need to a women’s shelter/children’s home? Or, when people ask what to to get you, suggest they make a donation to a charity you support instead? Often hospitals have a “suggested gifts” list for children with terminal or severe diseases who have extended hospital stays so perhaps that would be something you’d be interested in looking into.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I totally understand how you feel, but I think there is no polite way to get out of this one. People love babies and want to buy baby clothes. If you deny them this opportunity, they are going to be pissed and feel snubbed.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I agree.  See if they will do it as a charity fundraiser, instead.  If not, then see if they will wait until the baby is here.  That way some of the focus will be on the baby.  If none of those work out, then I’d just grin and bear it.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d let them throw them for me but like a PP said – donate some items to charity or see if they would be willing to include that when they invite people.

Some people will want to buy stuff for YOUR use so they may not love the idea of just bringing stuff for charity – if that’s the case and they still want to throw you a shower – you can always donate most of it to charity, they’ll never know, but they’ll still get to pick out the gift they want.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would talk to whoever is planning them and tell them you are thankful for the shower. Tell them you have everything you need but maybe they can plan a themed shower for practical things. Like a diaper shower… you’re going to need those in all different sizes. Did you already buy all the diapers you need? Or the theme could be laundry detergent, cleaning supplies… I’m just trying to think of things you’ll need besides baby clothes that they can still enjoy getting together and celebrating!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just go along with them. If people ask about gifts, tell them they’re unnecessary and if they really want to bring you something, diapers or other practical gifts would be great.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i think you should just go along with it also. let people have their fun celebrating you for a little bit. if you really don’t need anything, i echo PPs who recommended asking for practical things only (diaper, wipes) or things for you. you could also choose a local charity related to children’s health and welfare and let the hostess know to include in the invite that since you already have a slew of supplies to please use the money they would spend on a gift to donate to the charity. i’ve never been to a shower that did this, but keep seeing it suggested lately so it must be working for someone :p

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

WOW that is so wonderful they want to plan those for you. I had to plan my own baby shower no one offered to throw it for me. (my first and only child) I would be so happy if someone had done it for me. I say go with it. They care about you a lot.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ask them to bring a favorite children’s book. I.E. stock baby’s library. I’ve seen this and it’s quite fun.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@kayakgirl73: I like that idea!  How fun!

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