(Closed) Multiples and Selective Reduction

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: I would selectively reduce if I were pregnant with
    Twins : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Triplets : (16 votes)
    10 %
    4 : (51 votes)
    33 %
    5 : (14 votes)
    9 %
    6 : (2 votes)
    1 %
    7 : (0 votes)
    8 : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I wouldn't selectively reduce : (63 votes)
    40 %
    I wouldn't want to be pregnant. : (7 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Is this really possible?

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m having twins, and even though I’m only 10.5 weeks along, there’s no way I’d reduce. We both freak out about the pending craziness and financial squeeze from time to time. We’ve had sleepless nights and sometimes I catch myself having a pity party about how much it’s going to change our lives.  BUT, I can’t even imagine only being pregnant with just one now. If we were to lose one, it would be just as devastating as a regular miscarriage. I already love them both with more love than I ever thought I could have. 

    Having said that, I recognise that twins are the bottom level of difficulty in the multiples game.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Triplets sound like my worst nightmare so anything 4 and up?

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    well i’ve never heard of anyone getting pregnant with 5 babies naturally… and if i did facilitated pregnancy i wouldn’t have them implant more than i could handle (i’m pretty sure it’s illegal to implant as many as octomom). if i was pregnant with 2 or 3 i would keep them.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @AB Bride:  Sorry, I was in the process editing that out before I saw your comment! What would I do, hypothetically? Considering the massively slim chances (like, 1 in 60 million) of quintuplets happening naturally? Hypothetically, I’d keep them. 

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    I’m incredibly petite. I would do whatever was best for me and the babies. I’d like to say I could handle up to three, but we always joke about if I get pregnant with twins, I’d be on bed rest almost immediately.

    I agree, though– if I were to use other methods of implantation, I wouldn’t implant more than my body could handle to bring to term.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @AB Bride:  Yeah, cool story about the Dionne girls! They were believed to be identical, which means the egg split into 6 (one didn’t make it to term). Before then, my understanding is that people didn’t even know it was possible to have quintuplets. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Octamom and all 8 of her babies in the US are seemingly doing just fine.  I think when THAT many babies happens, it is a poorly made fertility treatment decision.  However, when triplets/quadruplets/etc. happen, that is often because IVF is the only way that a couple can conceive, and when they have that many “good” embryos, they just want all of them inserted in the hopes that a few of them stick–I could understand that scenario.  IVF is super expensive, invasive, and if you could get more “bang for your buck” so to speak by doing multiple embryos, I would probably do that max number that my doctor would allow, too.  I could imagine those people maybe feel like they hit the jackpot with a multiples pregnancy because their dream of having a lot of kids comes true very quickly.  

    I wouldn’t ever reduce.  There is enough medical technology these days that I would trust they would do everything in their power to ensure the safety/health of me and the babies.  If that means bed rest for a measly few months, I would sacrifice that for having a very long life of a child.  

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    To be honest, I’m a twin, and when we start trying to conceive, I will pray that I do not get pregnant with twins. Mostly because I hated being a twin growing up (i’m a fraternal twin, with a brother), but partly because I know how hard having twins was on my mom physically and finanically, and it scares me (22 years later and my mom is still dealing with major internal issues simply by having two babies in there that went to full term. I can’t imagine what it would be like to have 3 or 4 or 5 babies!)

    Having said that, if I got pregant with multiples, I would keep them. As hard as it would be, I personally think selective reduction would be even harder emotionally for me.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @cirk:  +1. I couldn’t go through with it myself simply because I know it would tear me up inside I understand why people do- I just couldn’t. 

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