Mumzilla?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Is this normal behavior for your mother or outside of her norm? 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

geh:  Is your Mom normally warm and gushy,attentive and supportive,  full of complements, kind and courteous?

If not, it is  a bit unrealistic to expect her to change because you are getting married. We sometimes have unrealistic expectations based on dreams, movies, TV etc, but we have to deal with reality.

The reality is that most of us come from dysfunctional (to varying degrees) families.

Weddings are stressful for many people including our families. Don’t dwell on what you can’t change.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

geh:  What are her feelings on your fiance?  

My mom is the total opposite.  Gushing over me like I’m the first bride that’s ever existed.  Up my ass 19x a day about the most obvious stuff, “You know you really need to get your dress altered…”  The opposite end of the spectrum is no cake walk lol!  

Meanwhile, post a pic of this dress you got!!  

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

 

geh:  Oh wow, that’s divine…are the straps removable??  I love it!!  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

geh:  My mom sounds like your mum. Lol! When I had my first wedding (all the trimmings) she didn’t like anything at all that I chose. Wasn’t enthused with dress shopping (I bought it at the first place). She liked one dress so I got it to appease her, went back the next day and ordered the dress I really wanted after I thought about it all night! I think planning a wedding changes some people! Just maybe try to turn towards your MOH for encouragement and support, she sounds awesome!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

 

geh:  The first dress I bought was also MS Lorie. It is beautiful. I have since then decided it is not right for me or the wedding I have planned, but I do think it is a beautiful dress. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

my mom was a momzilla.  but that is her behavior.  i was able to reel her in at times and i also picked my battles by ignoring some comments.

my mom paid for the entire wedding, so she did have some say in things.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh my mum wasn’t interested one single bit in my wedding. For example, we meet up in Stockholm right before the wedding and we spent the majority of the time there: looking for an alternative MOB-dress for her, looking for shoes to go with it and fixing a visa that she needed for a trip. I remember getting to the hotel with my huge, white, gown bag and actually had to ask her if she wanted to see it before we were off shopping. I won’t lie, it was hurtful and it made me sad, but I quickly realized that I had to focus on the things that did make me happy – like my amazing bridesmaids. I’m so glad to hear that your MOH is being there for you, it really makes a big difference to at least have one person that is supportive. As for your wedding day, I hope your mum steps up a little bit. Mine didn’t, but at least it didn’t come totally out of the blue so I was somewhat prepared.

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