Musings related to a wedding on a budget (sorry, loooong musings)

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
4 posts

@foxtrot:  This is tough! I go both ways. I will say in a friend’s wedding I was a bridesmaid and we had to be there the night before (after the rehersal dinner) to set up, then get up early for hair, make up, pictures blah blah blah. Honnestly by the time we made it to the reception we were all pretty beat. That made it hard to really kick up our heels and make it as fun as it should be. Then when we also had to clean up after everybody left it sort of just plain sucked. Also I felt like the magic was sort of gone. I hope that the other guests who weren’t behind the scenes were none the wiser. Part of me says if you can afford it, pay a pro for month of help or just even day of help. I am pretty high strung when it comes to parties/showers I am throwing so on my wedding day I can’t imagine worrying about if everything is running smoothly and coming together the way I would want. That being said I have been to weddings with a much lower budget and had a great time and not missed any of the dramatics (massive flower arrangements everywhere you turn, do-dads, tapestries, whathaveyou) in the least. If you can swing it so you can set up the day before and take down the day after then just using your own man power is a great way to save some money and people get to feel really involved with out being totally worn out. I’d say put the savings towards gorgeos rings, an awesomely fun honeymoon and of course the good food and wine 😉

Post # 4
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hmm, couldn’t you strike a compromise? Since you can afford it, why not do exactly the wedding you described, just what you want, and just spend a little bit on a day-of coordinator? I think, depending on where you are, you could hire someone just for that task, of setting up and tearing down. Then you could have the budget, close, intimate wedding you want, but not have to worry about anybody not enjoying themselves.

Post # 6
1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@foxtrot:  I think that if everyone is happy to help out and that that will be their gift to you guys then you should go for it! If you want to hire some college kids to help with setup or clean up then that’s awesome too (and would probably help cut down on the time needed to do it all). At the end of the day, you and your FI should do what you feel is best for you. Big expensive weddings can be perfect for one couple, but an absolute nightmare for another regardless of how much money they have saved.

Post # 7
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hiring some students to help is a great idea! I’m all for having family and friends help out but I think clean up is too much.  They’ll have already helped set up for the day, then changed into their nice clothes and partied.  You need to have someone else clean up.  I’m sure they’re want to help but they’re also your guests.  I’d try to make things a little easier on them.  That sounds like a really long, tiring day.

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