- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
So FI and I have a meeting with a photographer next weekend, and he said to bring some photo ideas with us….scanning around the bee, and friends and family(99% female), about must have pictures…..after reading threads and many discussions ive noticed one big thing!
alot of the main MUST HAVE PICTURES focus mainly on following the bride…..and unless its bride and groom, or groom and groomsmen….looking at most picture albums i feel the groom gets left out abit…..well i love most of the traditional bride shots…..but i have been working on a MUST HAVE OF THE GROOM LIST….because this is one of the few times in my life with FI that he is WILLING to have pictures taken…..
–Alot of these conversations started when my sister got her professional wedding photos back, and much to her and everyones suprise….there was maybe 6 pictures of the groom by himself and 4 of those had her comming up behind him or down the isle to him with him as the focus…..and my sister of herself, had recieved ALOT of pics of herself, alone, we lost track counting…..she had her getting ready pics, her bridal shoot pics (done on a seperate day!), then she realized that no one had paid attention and half the photos of her wedding day were re-creations of her bridal shoot, same pose same angles you name it, just in the church)….and it was hard to watch BIL go through the album and realize that 98% of the pictures were focused directly on the bride…..there were very few pics of him and his kids, or him alone with really anyoene, it was either my sister and them, or him, my sister and them….it was sad because he has had a relative pass away since them and there are really no shots of him with that relative….Wich were requested but the themselves (photogs) had 3 pages of bridal pictures that “you have to do at every wedding!” “DUH!”
So As my game plan we are doing a list of MUST HAVE bride, groom,and Family shots!! hence the need for 2 photographers….We have an aunt (shes FIs but has since “adopted” me) who putting it nicely can be a real ball buster if people who are paid to do a job dont listen to what the people who are paying them want….her hubby is the same way so they are going to tick things off the list to make sure we get what we want!(super nice lady any other time! her daughter got ripped off bad at her wedding so now she is the wedding photo nazi!)
Now I hope i dont get flammed for this because i know there is bound to be 1 bride sitting there with smoke comming out of her ears by now going “NOW WAIT ONE MINUTE, THIS IS MY WEDDING, THE WEDDING IS ALL ABOUT THE BRIDE EVERYONE KNOWS THAT WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU!” hopefully not but it ALWAYS happens it seems!
So with that little rant aside!! What is your must have picture list Of your FI!!
1.) FI and FFIL
-FFIL helping FI with tie, or some shot of just the two of them before the wedding…..(you would think pictures of the two of them are common….but uh nope we have maybe 6 total of the just the two of them, and i think maybe half those involve mud guns and trucks in someway)
2.)FI just by himself getting ready
3.)-Id like a few of just FI in our church, and some with just him and his Best man(his life long since diapers best friend)
-then usual course of FI and his groomsmen, parents family, and my family….
4.) groom and ring bearer
-I also love the pictures of groom helping the ringbearer with something like tying shoes or something and since he is super close to our ring bearer that will probably happen i just want the photog focusing on both of us…..
5.) groom and flower girl
-During my sisters wedding her photographer caught the cutest picture ever…..of My BIL twirling the flower girl (his niece), around before the cermony because well shes 6 and bored and needed enterained and they are just like that….while my sister was being positioned for the 6 billionth picture of her…..her photog heard giggling looked over and caught the moment, completely unplanned and unscripted…..it was beautiful, and one of EVERYONES (Bride included) favorite picture of the entire wedding…..
6.)The advice picture
-We really want a picture of Just FI and his grandpa(who has really poor health) and i kinda want to re-create a picture of them that was taken many years ago when FI was a ring bearer in an aunts wedding—The picture is of them sitting side by side on a church pew and in the picture his grandpa was giving him advice on how to sit still and when to do what, it is so precious and i have a copy of it in black and white and in color, i want to frame the black and white and re-create it in a sense only now hed be giving advice to the groom, and get in black and white and frame it….
7.) I plan to write my FI a letter for him to read on our wedding day about all the reasons why i love him……so I would like a picture of him reading that….
8.) ALL the important men in my life….
–I have some pretty important guys in my life….and i always see pics of both moms and grandmas and the brides…..but what i really desperately want if one picture of this gets done is……..One of FI, FFIL, My daddy, Brother-in-law,our nephews, and grandpa(we only have one remaining, his grandpa mentioned above, both of mine are passed on, as is one of his)
9.) The God Father!(dont hate me for this one Bees!)
–SO FI is SUPER close with his God Father, who just happens to be his FAVORITE uncle, (mine too but shhh!) and it has kinda morphed into a FAMILY tradition for the boys atleast (weird i know but its cute and makes for some awesome pictures) that all the boys when they get married have a classic God Father picture….thats right ladies a “Kiss my ring” picture, it sounds awful and tacky but it is SUPER cute when its done right and it is so much of a family thing with my soon to be in-laws that we want to do it!(and i like it!) I think every male cousin of his and i think all of their dads with the exception of 1 or 2 that are married have this picture….its pretty much expected! lol
10.) FI is fairly religious and Ive already been informed that they want a prayer done BEFORE the ceremony, So in the interest of the first look, FI and his guys and family are going to pray together before the first look at the same time my sister will lead the ladies in prayer in a seperate area before the first look, i want a picture of his family together and praying since it is a huge deal to them and i want to honor that……his grandma taught sunday school and conformation classes so religion is very important to him…..
—i would like the same picture of me and my side doing this….
—and then since we are doing a first look and pictures before hand at the end of pictures when we go to get ready for the cermony before we dispurse i would like them to capture our group prayer right before since we wont be having prayer during the ceremony….
11.) My favorite pic of a groom is and will always be—-
—-you guessed it….just his face watching the bride come down the isle! (I know im a sap!) but i love it, and even if they do a first look and are together for hours before hand, i still see the same look, that “wow” look, and its like they are seeing their girl for the first time on their wedding day….I just love it…..
12.) Just his face during our vows….
—-i would like it of both of us….but ya know i really want him there is so much focus on the bride that day, that i dont want him to get lost since it is OUR wedding….
13.) Groom dancing with flower girl
14.) Groom right before the ceremony!
—-there is always a picture of the bride getting ready to walk down the isle….ALWAYS! well in our church there is a GORGEOUS office just behind the pulpit (our preachers office) and that is where the boys will be before they come out…..so i would like ATLEAST one picture of him and the boys in there and one of just him
funny thing is—-FI agrees with wanting these pictures….but hes more worried about getting pics of me and us…lol….i know we have alot of time, but im making sure that every photographer we talk to is going to have an assistant who is talented to make sure that they can be with BOTH of us getting ready, and during the reception….
I know this is long, but there are whole pages of threads related to pictures of the bride and entourage….i think its time to talk about our guys!! After all it is OUR wedding and not MY wedding….and i keep reminding myself that the wedding isnt bigger then us!
soo bees! what are your must haves of YOUR LOVE!