Post # 1
A couple of days ago We both agreed to break the engagement a month before the wedding. I really wish it could have worked out but I know it was the right decision and I don’t regret it. The thing is he seems to be doing just fine while I’m over her on an emotional roller coaster ( going from excited for my future, to missing him a lot, to trying to stay positive.)I texted him to find out if he will be home monday cause I rented a moving truck and I need to get my stuff out and he said yeah. He then asked me how I was doing. I was honest and said I’ve been better and when I asked him how he was he said ” I’m doing great :)”. I know you guys think I’m too sensitive but I am right now. I was really hurt cause I feel like he planned that out or something. We were together for two years and he always treated me like a queen until this last month. I don’t know what I’m asking…I just need to vent. Can anyone relate to a broke relationship and felt like the other person didn’t even care?
Post # 2
Well he acts like he doesn’t care. That’s not necessarily true.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
nycsa: I agree. Most times it’s just a big show of bravado and not always a true representation of what is actualy going on inside their heads
Post # 4
Do you know what made him change his tune in the past month?
He totally set you up for that, that was really mean. Either he’s lying or trying to rub your face in it. Not cool.
Post # 5
I wish I knew but whenever I brought up the fast that we were having communication problems he would get annoyed saying” mi just like to talk”. I never knew what was going on in his head and how he felt about me a lot of time. I really think he just fell out of love.
Post # 6
i’m sorry you’re going through all this. i’m curious though, what led you two to mutually break up?
Post # 7
When I left my ex husband of 14 years, he had a date 3 days later (with a woman who was 12 years younger and pregnant with another man’s child). Meanwhile he was asking me to come home. He never took time to reflect, work on our relationship or get himself together. It was just out with the old and in with the new. That was pretty insulting, but really gave me a better idea of the kind of man he was and gave me some peace of mind that I had made the right decision.
Post # 8
eat45fresh: None of us can say here is he is saying that as a defense mechanism or he truly just wanted you to know how great he was doing. It is a little strange though to add the smiley face – that does almost seem to be trying to rub it in which raises suspicion for me.
It is hard to determine his feelings at all without knowing teh full story and what his thoughts/feelings/ reasons were about the broken engagement.
Good luck to you. All i can say it is natural to miss something that has been apart of your life for so long. Perhaps write yourself a list of reasons why you wanted to end the engagement. Plans you have for the future, goals etc. Keep that handy and whenever you are missing him or feeling down, give it a read.
Post # 9
Based on your last post, it sounds mutual in that you initiated the break up, and he agreed and didn’t fight it? If I recall? He’s obviously not doing great and is just texting you that out of pride. But it would be nice if both you were genuinly doing great.