(Closed) Mutually removed from a bridal party. Want my money back!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Why not just not pick up the dress? problem solved. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it was your obligation to cancel the dress order because you ordered it and agreed to pay for it.  I don’t think she owes you money for it.  I would try to sell it online.  Sorry this happened to you, bride sounds nutty.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ick what a crappy situation.  Honestly, I would just pay for the rest of it and try and sell it.  It would not be worth the drama and hassle to try and get her to pay for it.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@abz109:  I assume that the bridal shop has your credit card on file? If you don’t pay the remaining balance I think that you’ll be screwed because it will be your name sent to the collection agency.

I think you should just go and pay the balance of the dress, pick it up, and chalk this up to a life lesson. Sucky but not sure what else you can do.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Leave it at the store and only be out 50% for it instead of the full cost? She’s not going to give you anything for it and then you’re stuck with a puke green dress.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just try to sell it. Don’t take her to small claims court, it’s so not worth it. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, I would just pick it up and try to sell it, I guess. It’s tempting to try to get her to pay you back, but I think you’ll have to fight her every step of the way, and it’s not worth it. Best to just try to sell the thing and get past the whole nastiness as soon as possible. You won’t recover all your money, which sucks, but that’s life. At least you’re not buying shoes + hair + whatever else she comes up with. Sorry this happened — sounds like a real pain. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

After reading @throughthebarricades‘s response, I’d be worried about the salon having my cc on file as well.  I would pick up the dress and try to resell it online (try preownedweddingdress or the usual ebay etc.).  Sorry it’s not the ideal answer, and sorry your bride was kinda crazy!!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think she’s responsible for paying for the dress.  Also, I’m a bit put off by the fact that you seem to be implying that she is narrow-minded, has no real friends, and is immature because she never went to college.  Plenty of people who choose not to go to college are understanding, have friends, and are mature.

Post # 13
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3050 posts
Sugar bee

i think the main issue here is that you should have said no from the beginning. there are very few people i would be a bridesmaid for. some brides don’t expect much more than you showing up on the day and for the parties before. some like lots of hands on interaction.

i think you shoud just pay for the dress and try to sell it online. it’s not the store’s fault. and ultimately the order was made under your name so they will bug you- not her.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You sound extremely angry with this girl.  If I were in your situation, I’d pick up the dress and sell it online.  Why bother sending her threats of small claims court over a dress?

FWIW, she did ask you if you were willing/able to be part of her wedding multiple times and you told her you were.  This really isn’t the bride’s fault.  $250 is pretty average price for a bridesmaid dress, and requiring the ‘maids to purchase matching shoes is commonplace as well.  I don’t see “bridezilla” anywhere in the description you gave.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Beckster329:  I disagree with you. I do not think she was implying that because she didn’t go to college she is those things. I think she was simply stating that this girl IS those things, regardless of her level of education. When she says that this girl’s lack of college plays a part in the issue, I think she is refering to the studying and the groups, and all the other stuff that goes into college. It CAN be hard for someone to realize how time consuming college courses can be and how you can’t just cancel on a study group/group project meeting.

(Edit: I started writing before the OP replied)
 

 

@abz109:  I know what you mean about the salon not canceling he order… they more than likely had to pay the other 50% before the dress would be tailor made for your specifications (color, any measurements). The wedding I was in the bride told us to order our dresses in the wrong color, not even 48 hours later the dress shop wouldn’t change our order or cancel it. So we wore coral dresses instead of pink. Honestly, I would just pay the difference, count it as a loss if you can’t resell it, and just get on with your life. I’ve dealt with people like this gal and in the end it is better to just go your own way and not waste energy on her.

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