Post # 1
My little guy is just over a year and is still not sleeping thru the night. He has about a handful of times but that is it. He takes great naps and we have the same bedtime routine every night so he knows when bedtime is. He goes to sleep fine for about 4hrs and then is up wanting a bottle. He will drink anywhere from 4-10 ounces. Sometimes he then goes back to sleep till morning, other times he wakes up 2 or 3 hours later wanting another bottle. There has been a few nights he has had 3 8 ounce bottles during the night. I have tried just giving him water in his bottle but he just gets so upset and cries and won’t settle down. I have tried the cry it out method for about 10 minutes then my husband got so mad that he went in to rock him and got him to sleep and then tried to put him in his crib and he woke up screaming.
His schedule is almost the same everynight as far as when he wakes up.
12:30-1am up and wanting a bottle
Occasionally-3-3:30am- up and wanting a bottle.
6:00am-6:20 up for the morning.
Some nights he has only gone about 1-2 hours after going to bed and wants another bottle.
He is on solid foods and whole milk. We do have some leftover formula that he gets only at night in the bottle.
I am EXHAUSTED and feel hopeless. My husband and I are at each other’s throat due to lack of sleep.
Post # 3
ok first off…its natural for toddlers to do this. been thru it twice as a single parent. you need to change his bedtime. push it back to 9. ive been this way with my girls for a long time. it was one of the only ways i got them to stay asleep. bed right after bath. make sure its very warm. not burning hot but warm enough to heat blood up and stay warm until hes in bed before the cooldown everyone experiences when they fall asleep. use lavender lotion. i dont recommend the lavender bubble bath bc bubble bath increases the risk of uti and yeast infection. make sure you put lotion on his chest so he inhales it when breathing. lavender will cause relaxation and sleepyness. dim lights when bathing and dressing keep talking to a minimum. make sure he has enough blankets! the colder he gets the more restless he will be when sleeping. make sure his bottles are just above room temp. warm milk put my.kids to sleep.i always keep a fan on, pointing away from child, for white noise. once they focus on that humming they drift off.
yoiur son is still growing and needs food often. after age two i weaned my girls from sippy cups that they took to bed. there is nothing wrong with a cup in bed as long as weaned around two when they understand the potty concept.
make sure there is little to no light in his room. i putthose light blocking curtains in my girls window i know people who used cardboard. if he needs light i suggest a very dim nightlight in the opposite side of the room.
if hes taking later naps push those back too. i do right after lunch when the food coma sets in and works great. and make sure hes doing a lot of running around during the day to wear himself out.
those are just my tips that i follow. itll get easier. just relax
Post # 4
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s been awhile since my kids were little but both had to learn to sleep. Your son has you trained to get up with him and he hasn’t learned to soothe himself. After about 6 months, there’s no physical need to wake up during the night, especially if he’s on solids. We all had to learn to settle ourselves at night. Make sure he gets two short naps during the day and lots of play and fresh air. A well-rested child sleeps better than an over-wrought child so naps are important and shouldn’t be missed.
Push his bedtime back to 9:00. Do the whole bedtime routine starting at 7:30: bath, pjs, a little quiet play time, give him a filling snack, brush teeth, then a book before bed. Give him a sippy cup with water to take to bed.
If he wakes up, go in and say firmly and a little angrily, “Shhh! It’s bedtime! Everyone is asleep! No getting up at night! Good night.” Then give him a lovey/stuffed animal, snuggle him down and leave the room. Don’t go back. Deal with the crying…it’s not out of need at this age. He’s teaching himself how to calm down. It may be a night or two, but he’s got to learn to settle himself. Do not go in and rock him or entertain him in any way.
It’s OK to be short with him in the middle of the night – a little angry voice will make you less fun to be with and that’s what you want. You need rest and so does he. If your husband can’t stand it, let him go sleep somewhere else during this training period. There will be many times that you will have to employ a little tough love as a parent, and the middle of the night is just the beginning. I know every child is different, but he should be sleeping a good 10-12 hours at night with this schedule. Good luck!
Post # 5
I would second lori and suggest that you buy/borrow some sleep training books to learn some different methods. I understand your husband getting frustrated after 10 minutes of crying, but 1 week of a hard time sleep training can equal a lifetime afterward of better sleep habits.
Post # 6
Well I found an awesome website called Troublesome Tots. It’s all about sleep training. FANTASTIC!!! We started Monday night and here is how it went down.
We have dinner at 6:15/6:30ish. He gets his bath after dinner then lotion and jammies. Instead of rocking him with his bottle, he got his bottle out in the living with the lamp and tv on. Then we sat together and cuddled for a few minutes. 7:30 we went to his room, he got his paci, we rocked for a couple minutes and I gave him hugs and kisses, told him he was a big boy and going to bed by himself. Laid him in his crib, walked out and shut the door. He cried for maybe 15 minutes and fell asleep. He woke around 3:30am and instead of going in and feeding and rocking him, I waited a bit because he woke up talking to himself. He eventually started fussing and got mad. I could tell his mad cry from his hungry one, so I didn’t go in. I said to my husband if he cries for more than 20 minutes, I will go in. Agreed. Within 20 minutes he had settled down, fussed a couple minutes and fell asleep and slept till 7:30. That day at his daycare he took 2 really good naps and was a very happy boy. We followed the same routine Tuesday night, and when I put him to bed he fussed for less than 5 minutes and was asleep. He woke around 1am and fussed for 5 minutes and fell asleep and woke at 6:30am. Last night he fussed for a minute as I shut the door and then went to sleep. Woke at 3:30 and babbled and went right back to sleep and I woke him at 6:30.
I am so hoping this continues because I am actually getting sleep too. I miss my cuddles in the middle of the night but I don’t miss it taking an hour or more to get him back to sleep. We get in plenty of cuddles now during the day to make up for it.