My absolutely horrible boudoir experience *warning: LONG!*

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@SneakyBee:  I am so sorry you had a horrible experience! My photographer went out of her way to make me feel comfortable. She made sure we were alone and never discussed her experiences with other clients. This person is incredibly unprofessional, and I must admit incredibly tacky and rude.

I hope that you at least get great photos out of this whole ordeal!

Post # 4
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Oh my gosh! What a terrible experience. I am so sorry that happened to you. They sound like grown up bullies! If you want to schedule another shoot, I think that is very understandable, just make sure your friend won’t get hurt feelings-not that she has to know. Regardless, I think your FI is going to love the pictures no matter what!

Post # 5
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@SneakyBee:  Holy crap! I’m sorry you went through that! You should have walked out at like ten different times!!  At least you didn’t have to pay for it, your friend recommended it and it was terrible so that’s kinda karma!

Post # 6
3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Were you going to do a boudoir shoot either way if your friend hadn’t set you up with this appointment?

Post # 7
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

@SneakyBee:   that sounds miserable! I’m sorry the photographer was so unprofessional. Your friend sounds like a sweetheart. I wouldn’t tell her you had a terrible time. I would also definitely redo the photos if you have the budget/interest. Most boudoir photoshoots are NOT like that and the photographer takes extra steps to make sure you are comfortable. 

Post # 9
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@SneakyBee:  Oh my god, you poor thing. That literally sounds like my anxiety-ridden brain’s worst imaginings made real.

It’s so sweet of you not to want to hurt your friend’s feelings, but I hope (after you get the pics back) that you post some online reviews (stripped of identifying details and with immaculate grammar and a balanced description so they can’t just write them off in a response as the ravings of a crazy client). I think this sort of thing- comfort, professionalism, PRIVACY!!! are most people’s priority when choosing a photog for a boudoir shoot, and this one sounds like a nightmare of unprofessionalism and cruelty. Hopefully you can save some future women from wasting their money and shredding their self-esteem at this place. 

I hope, after all that, that she at least took some damn good photos!

Post # 10
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m so sorry to hear you had such a horrible time. I probably would have walked out before it even started with the cold and all the people watching and the rude people that are there because you are paying them. ugh people these days.

Post # 11
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That sounds so miserable… holy crap. Just being mostly naked in a freezing room trying to look sexy is miserable enough without having to do it in front of people who you don’t know! 

…I would tell your friend how much the gesture meant to you, but I would let her know how you felt. Chances are, she had a similar experience to you. Maybe you two can laugh about it later? 

That way you can find the photog online and review the crap out of her. 

Post # 12
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@SneakyBee:  Erm… what? How extremely rude! This is just so unprofessional!

Before taking new pics, I’d wait and see how they come out, though.

Since your friend was there to witness this whole thing, didn’t she realize you couldn’t have felt comfortable at all?

Post # 13
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Oh my God! How terrible! I was about to say the minute the photographer started showing the other client’s pictures I would have walked out (because God only knows what she’d do with my photos!) but then I read that your super sweet BM had paid for the session.

Ugh, so sorry that was a horrible experience! I would write a review on every place I could find, Yelp, etc, especially pointing out how she was showing other client’s photos. 


Post # 15
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

That sucks! You’re way nicer and more accomodating than I would have been! I don’t do cold and I’m about as un-modest as they come, but I would have been livid if they’d showed me some random girl’s shoot and said how awkward she was.

I’d wait and see how you feel once you get the pictures back. If you love them then maybe you’ll be able to focus on that and forget the awful experience to get there. If you don’t love them, I would absolutely schedule another boudoir shoot. I’d tell the photog about your awful first experience and emphasize that you want privacy and don’t want a repeat of what happened last time. I think this photog was unprofessional and an abberation, not the typical boudoir shoot.

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