Post # 1
So, I’m due in 5 days and I think I may kill someone.
I’ve had a pretty easy pregnancy – I actually ended up losing weight, no gestational diabetes, no high blood pressure, no complications. Other than a week where we had a heatwave where I thought I was going to die + tons of heartburn and the general getting up to pee every hour, not being able to bend forward, etc, things have been swell.
A month ago the, “Haven’t had the baby yet??” comments started. At first, I was like “haha.” Then I rolled my eyes. Now it makes me furious. I know people are just making conversation and being light hearted. There is no malice intended and they’re just excited. I understand that.
But, when I hear it 18 times a day, and that’s not even an exaggeration, and Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law are posting on my FB about how I “need to get the ball rolling and have that baby already!” and every baby topic is prefaced with “come on already – have that baby!!! I thought you would go early!” it starts to wear on you. Especially when my doctor at my 38 weeks appointment was already talking induction – for no medical reason, just that “most women at this point are pretty miserable.” Everyone keeps commenting that I must be ready to have this baby already or I must be so miserable that I can’t wait to get him out. No, actually, I’m cool. I’m not in a hurry like apparently everyone else in the world is for me to have this freaking baby.
It’s seriously stressing me out. And to top it off, I’m so freaking sore everywhere – all I want to do is go for a prenatal massage. But it’s $40 and Darling Husband isn’t cool with me spending the money that we, admittedly, shouldn’t be spending on that…on that. Even though I’ve asked him 6 times in two days to please rub my back and he won’t….not that I’m resentful or anything *sarcasm* His massages suck anyway and make me feel worse in the end 😐
And my house is messy and so not ready for baby.
Okay, that’s all.
Post # 3
Yeah, you deserve the massage. I say go for it. Sorry people are so stupid with their mouths. I hope you feel better.
Post # 4
Awww, I would send you for a massage.
Post # 5
@ZombieBullfrogHoller: All I can say is you’re not the only one. I’m fairly short and, um, small chested so my bump was very prominent. From 7 months on people were continuously saying, “is it due this week?” All you can really do is smile sweetly and roll your eyes.
Rather bizarre that your doctor is suggesting induction though. Surely going full term is best for baby.
Hang in there, and I wish you and baby all the best.
Post # 6
Remember people mean well, they really do. It will happen 🙂
Post # 7
Aww…that’s no fun. I say you deserve that massage!
Not sure what it is about pregnant women that cause otherwise well mannered people to say and do the most ridiculous things.
Hang in there!
(I know it’s so not the same but on days when I get asked a ton if my dyed red hair is natural or if it’s all “mine” (it’s really long), it sends me into homicidal ranges. No one likes to be pestered with the same questions day in and day out)
Post # 8
@MrsKeAloha: haha, Thanks. Regarding the massage, I think I’m going to justify it by saying that we get refunded our $50 security desposit from the doula after the birth, so it can come from that and see what he says 😛
@paula1248: Thanks! I don’t think my eyes have ever rolled so much in my life. Smh, haha. As for the induction, that’s what I thought, too. At that appointment he basically was saying about how most women are asking for inductions at this point so we could talk about that. And I was like, “Nope, I’m feeling good – he can stay in there as long as he wants, as far as I’m concerned.” And he sort of side eyed me and said we’d talk about setting something up for inducing at my 39 week appointment. Well, at that appointment I was scheduled to see the PA and she didn’t bring it up…so neither did I! Now Tuesday, if I don’t go into labor, is my due date, and I’ll have to see if there going to give me grief about wanting to go over my due date if that is the case.
@Sassygrn: I have to keep reminding myself, lol.
@MrsPaulsBabyBallerina: Homicidal rages – that is a legit description, haha!
Post # 9
@ZombieBullfrogHoller: I hear you!! I was 2 weeks late and people were soooo irritating!! I will tell you when I have the baby, ok!?!?!
Post # 10
@ZombieBullfrogHoller: It does get exhausting.
@paula1248: And techincally at 38 weeks the baby is full term and could be delivered early if she chose. I had inductions with both of my kids for two different and none medical reasons theres nothing wrong with it and baby will still be full term. BUT if she chooses not to thats fine to either way she goes she will have a beautiful baby at the end.
Post # 11
@ZombieBullfrogHoller: I’m sorry mama, it sucks…I’ve been there and I DID have my baby early. The stares in public and the “OMG YOU MUST BE MISERABLE!” comments were so freaking annoying. Tell your H to either rub your back or pay for the massage…and tell him to clean the house too! 😉
PS- Its your right not to have an induction if you don’t want it. Ask for a non stress test to make sure the baby is fine/the placenta is in good condition and then make your own choice. Good luck!
Post # 12
tell the next person who comments thst if you could only have a massage you’d be so relaxed thst you’d surely go into labor!
Post # 13
@ZombieBullfrogHoller: Go get the massage and say someone else paid for it?? lol I know that’s naughty, but it really sounds like you need it! 🙂
Post # 14
@Ballet513: “PS- Its your right not to have an induction if you don’t want it. Ask for a non stress test to make sure the baby is fine/the placenta is in good condition and then make your own choice.”
Ditto this. I hate it when even doctors try to pressure ladies into giving birth before they or their baby is ready. Sometimes babies need a little extra time in there.
I hope that people will lay off an dleave you alone. I know they just mean well, but they don’t understand how many “well meaning” people are saying the same thing to you. I know how exhausting it can be 🙁
I hope you can find some way to get that massage! You deserve it!
Post # 15
I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND what you’re saying! I went 8 days past my due date. EIGHT FRIGGIN DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I actually just kept coming to work, and every day some nit-wit would ask if I’ve had the baby. I would stare down at my swollen, miserable belly and look them dead in the eye and say, “Does it LOOK like I’ve had the baby yet?” and walk waddle away.
Anyway, in hindsight I’m very happy that I avoided an induction since I didn’t want any interventions at all. They did a non-stress test and my blood pressure, baby’s heart rate, placenta, and amniotic fluid were all A-ok. I know it’s hard, it sucks so so bad right now, but hold off if you can and let your body go into labor when you and your baby are both ready 🙂
Oh, and the massage- DO IT if you can. If not, put a few tennis balls in a sock and lean your back against them on a wall. I did lower back rolls like this for a while and I think it really helped.
Post # 16
@DaneLady: If not, put a few tennis balls in a sock and lean your back against them on a wall. I did lower back rolls like this for a while and I think it really helped.
You are a certifiable genius.