My aunt is so selfish, what do I do? (NWR)

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would be direct and tell her you’d like good quality prints of the photos. Its really cheap and everyone lives near a walmart, walgreens, cvs or some where that you can print them, so there’s really no excuse. Or can she scan and save the file and just send it to you? Then you can print them. If she is still difficult just straight up ask her why. Maybe putting her on the spot will make her to do it. I can’t believe she raided the house! That’s inexcuseable. I’d be PISSED.

 And how selfish – who cares if other people have copies of photos?!

Post # 5
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@LadyMoriarty:  I would research to find one of those professional scanning services in her area. Y’know those places where they’ll take boxes of old family photos and use professional scanners to digitally archive them? Then figure out exactly what you can do to make it ridiculously easy for your aunt to bring the photos to the scanning place. Maybe you could arrange a courier to collect a box from her house, or send her a pre-addressed, postage-paid box. 

At this point the whole history with your aunt raiding things is irrelevant. You are asking for a favor, and it’s not just a little favor if you’re talking about a large number of photos.  So you need to make it as easy as possible for the person doing you the favor, regardless of past history. 

Even if you only want a photocopy, rather than a digital copy, it’s still a hassle and expense for your aunt. So perhaps you could call the local Kinkos and see if you can make the process any easier. 

But the scanning approach is the best. That’s the only way to really preserve these precious family photos, as well as being the best way for you to get copies. Your aunt might be more easily convinced if you approach her from the conservation perspective rather than the giving-you-stuff perspective. 

Post # 6
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m not sure I’d want to upset her… I think that if I were you, I’d pick one of the days before the wedding, and go (with her, if she insists) to Kinko’s! And treat her to lunch for “all her trouble (saccherine smile)”

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