- 3 years ago
My aunt is the oldest of 3 children (then my mom, then my uncle.. they’re only a couple of years apart between them all)
My grandparents both died within weeks of each other (they passed away about 10 years ago). After the funeral, my aunt raided their house, with her kids, without telling my mom or my uncle.
She took all the pictures, along with ALL of my grandmother’s emerald jewelry (my mom actually got a lawyer involved with that one. He said if my aunt wanted to take ALL of it, and not evenly distribute it, then she would have to pay both my uncle and my mom the value of the jewelry,) certain other mementos, and letters that my great-grandmother wrote, in Italian, to her sister back in Italy, from 1910-1920-ish…
ANYWAY… so my sister is home visiting right now, and she asked my aunt for copies of all of the pictures she has of my grandmother and grandfather, and copies of the letters from our great-grandmother. My sister and I have been doing some genealogy stuff lately, and we’re greatly interested in our grandparents past.
So what does my aunt do?
She scans and prints copies of the photos, low-res quality on her printer on regular paper, and she doesn’t give my sister any copies of the letters, but claims she’ll “scan and email them” to her.
My sister said my aunt had a huge stack of photos of both of my grandparents, with their siblings, and parents (which I’ve never even seen before… MY MOTHER HAD NEVER EVEN SEEN THEM BEFORE)… and she only gave my sister about 3 or 4, sh*tty-quality printed copies.
We’ve been honest with her and told her we’re researching genealogy stuff, and we’re really interested in our family history, and SHE seemed to be thrilled. She seemed to be interested in the fact that we’re doing that, because she had dabbled in it a bit. But then… this?
What can I do? I want to drag her ass down to Kinkos or Walmart and force her to give us decent copies of EVERY-THING. I feel like she’d hoarding all of this.
I don’t want to take the originals away from her at all, I just want decent, clear, copies. What can I say to her? (she’s back in NY and I live in CA… and I wont be in NY again until my wedding)