My aunt totally guilt-tripped me (rant)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@gingerkitten:  That is REALLY obnoxious of her! I can’t imagine saying that to a bride!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@gingerkitten:  don’t feel guilty. It’s your wedding, do whatever the heck you want and she has no right to speak to you that way. In fact, she should be grateful she was even invited, you don’t owe her anything. She knew everything from the start, it’s her fault for not taking it seriously. Forget about it. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh my gosh, annoying! I don’t get why people think they can change your wedding plans…FI’s family does this shit all the time!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@gingerkitten:  It sounds to me like she just really wants to celebrate with you and is bummed she can’t make it. I know it’s easy to feel really overwhelmed and guilty because part of you wants to please everyone while the other part wants to have the wedding that is best for you. Don’t take it as a guilt-trip… just know that she loves you and feels bad she can’t be there. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

@gingerkitten:  They act this way because they love you and want to share in your big day. They are disappointed and frustrated. They can feel like you are purposefully excluding them or that you don’t care about them because you have chosen to have a wedding that can be a financial burden on other people especially if they were under the assumption that it was being covered and find out it is not.

You really need to see it from the other person perspective. I think you need to realise that just because you create a wedding website does not mean that people will look at it or look at all of it. i think you need to realise that even though she can;t make it she still wants a chance to celebrate with you.

Why do brides think these things are bad? Not everything is an attack. It tells you how much these people care about you and are wanting to be a part of your wedding. it is not like they called up when they got their invite and said you were a an evil cow because you are having a DW.

And before you blast me I had a DW so I know all about people not coming and wanting to celebrate back home.  If you are not having a party back home then just say “I am sorry that you are not going to get a chance to celebrate with us, but just knowing how much you want to is so lovely to hear”.

  

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@gingerkitten:  Let it roll of your back.  She’s being silly.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MexiPino:  I read into it the exact same way before I even read your comment.

Definitely sounds like she wants to celebrate with you and is bummed she can’t. Don’t take it personally, it doesn’t sound like a guilt trip to me, but it sounds like she really wants to go.

ETA: I got legally married in Oklahoma and had a technical destination wedding back home in California where everyone could attend. We didn’t have “two weddings”, we had one wedding and a legal marriage. So, technically I had a destination wedding… twice.

ETA2: @j_jaye:  +1 “Why do brides think these things are bad? Not everything is an attack. It tells you how much these people care about you and are wanting to be a part of your wedding. it is not like they called up when they got their invite and said you were a an evil cow because you are having a DW.” 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@j_jaye:  Agree 100% on everything you said, especially “Why do brides think these things are bad? Not everything is an attack. It tells you how much these people care about you and are wanting to be a part of your wedding”

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