Okay, so my uncle, his son, and three of my other cousins are playing Here Comes The Bride for my walk down the isle. My uncle is a msuic teacher, and the kids all have a few years of music training. And they sound awesome!!!
Now I find out that my Music Teacher Uncle’s wife has decided to add their young daughter to the players – without asking me AND she doesnt play an instrument!!!!!
By The Way – this obnoxious aunt of mine who is apparently pulling the strings on this had me as a flower girl at her wedding when I was very young and she grabbed onto my arm and shook me when I wasnt standing still enough while screaming YOUR NOT GOING TO RUIN MY WEDDING!!!
So….I’m less than thrilled that she decided to add her non-music-playing daughter to my wedding band!!!
I messaged my uncle that I do not want her playing since she’s never played before. I want the music to sound good – and she might freeze up completely in front of the 200+ people!!
Aaaand now my female cousin L who is SUPPOSED to be in the group doesnt want to play anymore because she musician uncle’s wife wants to dress the two girls the same, and L doesnt like the matchy matchy crap – which I agree with 100%.
@courtney.castle2304: If my uncle decides to side with his wife, and this all falls apart, I’ll have to use recorded music or something. But I really love the idea of family members playing the song, it would mean so much to me. I just don’t want his daughter to participate if she cant even play! If she had experience it would be one thing….
wow, they sound awesome, I was tearing up listening, do what you want, just say this is your day, daughter may ruin your moment, appeal to the Uncle, tell him it would be very special if they played and you would be heart brken if they didn’t play ..but only without the daughter..who does that?
My niece sang at my wedding we were all tearing up it was such a special moment within the ceremony, she sang Ave Maria in soprano, my cousin-in-law was shocked when he looked up
Don’t let your Aunt ruin your moment, be strong!! It’s wonderful and a real joy to have musicians in the family
Oy. I had a somewhat similar issue. I asked my concert-level musician brother and sister to sing at my wedding. My Future Sister-In-Law proceeded to complain to my Fiance that she had not been asked to sing…despite not being a singer and not playing any instruments in her life???? And she’s 30 and said this was “unfair” even though she was asked to do a reading (the only one). Some people care more about appearing important than logic.
Hi, guys don’t worry . . . K will not be in the wedding nor will she be wearing a red white and Blue dress. So everyone can “Chill” no need to worry or have “anxiety”. Sorry to get anyone worried.
K has been playing for about a year, and had asked if she could be included in the music, so I was going to write her a simple part and then ask b00kbug if she could be included. I will NOT have her perform at the Ceremony SO don’t worry. nuff said.
I was going to say, if she’s never played trumpet before, it’s actually really hard to even get a sound (other than rushing air) out of it without at least a few weeks of work … and you could always pop a mute in there.
I played a brass instrument too, and I dont want someone who hasn’t played much have her first ‘concert’ at my wedding. It’s the BIG moment of the wedding, when guests see me for the first time, I dont want to be hearing a squeaky trumpet!!
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