Post # 1
I was kind of up set when my brother go married because my future sister-in-law at the time didn’t ask me to be in her wedding instead they asked my younger brother to be in their wedding. We have like nothing in common. Is it wrong to not include her in my wedding either?
Post # 3
Nope, sounds fine!
Also that is interesting to hear; I’m trying to decide whether to ask my FSILs because I don’t know them very well yet and I’m not sure if they’d be happy to be asked or annoyed at the time/money and feel obligated.
Post # 4
No, if there is no other reason for you to include her in the wedding than “she’s married to my brother”, there’s no reason to have her in it.
Choose who you want, she can be a guest.
Post # 5
@sarahroby: Not at all! There’s no obligation to have any siblings in your wedding, much less their spouses. If you and your FI would like to have one or both of your brothers in your wedding, or not, go for it, and don’t worry about her.
Post # 6
@sarahroby: I don’t think it’s wrong to not include her because you’re not close or have little in common, rather than not including her because she didn’t include you.
Post # 7
@sarahroby: No. It’s nice to build bridges by including brothers and sisters in law in your wedding but it’s not required. If you guys don’t have any kind of close relationship then I don’t think it’s necessary to include her.
Post # 8
Not at all. She didn’t include you which makes it perfectly acceptable for you to in return no include her. Not to be catty but there is no way she can be upset by this choice if she really thinks about it.
Post # 9
OP, you don’t mention how long ago it was that your brother got married, however the reason you shouldn’t include her should have nothing to do with whether or not she included you. Perhaps she hardly knew you at the time. I would assume since then, you have gotten to know each other better. If you are not close, don’t ask her, but don’t not ask her because she didn’t ask you way back when.
Post # 10
@SeaSalt: She dated my brother for at least 3 years before they got married