Post # 1
We are not ready for a baby yet. DH and I decided to use this year to pay off some debt and save some more money. I know logically that it is not the right time for a baby. But at the same time, lately it’s ALL I can think about. I have dreams about being preggers. I am constantly adding stuff to my secret pinterest baby boards. I stare at the extra bedroom and day dream about how to decorate a nursery. I ask DH about names and walk veryyyyy slowly through the baby section of Target.
DH is just as excited as I am about starting our family, but he doesn’t obsess over it the way I do. We both grew up with single moms who struggled financially (and still do) and we are trying our hardest to start a family when financially ready.
Anyways, this is more of a woe is me thread haha. Anyone else have baby fever?
Post # 3
I get it occasionally but then I spend time with my 6 month old nephew and it goes away for a bit. Especially when I stayed at my sisters and he woke up at 2am, I just rolled over and went back to sleep, unfortuately she had to get up.
I just think of the things I like to do (sleep, go out w/friends, travel) and think of if I had a baby I wouldn’t be able to do XYZ and that helps curb baby fever.
Post # 4
Yep. What really helped me was setting a timeline to actually start TTC. Now that I have that in place, I can think about it a lot less. I just focus on getting myself in shape, taking care of myself, etc so that I’m healthy when the time comes. Just enjoy the time as a couple while you can. 🙂 I also try to think about how much it would suck to be up in the middle of the night, etc. It doesn’t make it go away, but it does help quell it a little bit.
Post # 5
Um, yep. Crazy crazy baby fever here.
Post # 6
@Bostongrl25: AWE 😉 your time will come, sweet lady!
Post # 8
@Bazinga: “but then I spend time with my 6 month old nephew and it goes away for a bit.”
You know it is bad when spending time with young kids actually enhances the baby fever instead of making it go away. Yeah – that’s how I am right now.
Post # 9
Augh I feel you!! BIL and his girlfriend had a baby girl yesterday and my SIL announced on Easter that she and her husband are expecting in November.
I tried to talk to DH about it last night and he won’t even talk to me about having kids =( Wahh!!!
Post # 10
@Bostongrl25: Yes and think the way you do. A lot of friends have had babies too recently, I think it’s given me a nudge
Post # 11
It’s nice to know other ladies struggle with this too. I am trying really hard to focus on myself and us as a couple this year, and enjoy the free time while we can. I’m doing a lot of house projects and have a couple of trips planned ,because I know it gets harder to do these things with a baby. But it’s constantly in the back of my mind!
Post # 12
@Bostongrl25: You’re doing the right thing by enjoying the time while you have it. At least you know what you want and are looking forward to trying!
Post # 13
@Bostongrl25: I swear I could have written this post, in fact I pretty much did last week. DH and I are in exactly the same situation as you. We are ready, the situation is not. HOW frustrating is that? Even the things I’m suppose to enjoy while I can (drinking, sleeping in, being spontanous) aren’t exciting me any more.
I’m having THE MOST bizarre cycle at the moment too, I can feel every twinge in my body and I think I’m ovulating, but there is a bit of me that starts thinking, what if I’ve missed counted this and I’m pregnant. Nuts I know.
If this is a woe is you post then I’ll join the party as woe is me too!
Post # 14
I have baby fever so bad!!!!! For the last year or so it’s always there, I think about getting the double lines, being pregnant and being a mum. All the time. Really ALL the time!!! it can’t be healthy how often I think about it!!
We made a bucket list, a savings plan and pretty much a life time-line/goals and I waited till he was ready. Last month DH told me that I could stop BC and we could start trying…it really hit him since his best friend had a little one…. in short I UNDERSTAND completely how you feel!!! It doesn’t get easier unfortunately, just try and plan ahead as much as possible. One thing at a time and you’ll get there. Goodluck!
Post # 15
Like crazy!! I think about haveing a baby all the time. We don’t plan to TTC for about a year maybe two depending. We wanna pay off some student loans and buy a house first. But then DH and I get talking about how well if we had a baby right now it wouldn’t be a terrible thing, and we could afford it. But I know waiting is the right thing. But yet so HARD!!1
Post # 16
I had THE WORST baby fever for over a year. It was constant – I ended up needing counselling because I was having incredibly dire thoughts and feelings and really felt if I can’t have a baby now, what’s the point in even being here? Now, only 2 months after posting on here, I am happier than ever. Granted, I am lucky in that we are able to plan our wedding to keep me distracted (we wanted to save our wedding until after we bought a house, but we have decided for the sake of my sanity it is best to have something to focus on, rather than simply “waiting” for more money to accumulate in our savings) But I have been reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility which is keeping me feeling as though I am doing something. Taking pre-natal vitaminds because although it is 100% unneccessary at the moment, I feel like it makes me more “ready” when we are ready to start trying. Baby boards on pinterest are great, the psychologist told me to look at the “waiting” phase as a time to research (I’m a Uni student) and so she gave the example of making it like an assignment. Each week, fortnight, month, whatever make it a goal to research different things, whether it be furniture and prams, or different syndromes and how to deal with those (I found this to be very interesting, as I’m studying teaching so it is also relevant to that). I find the most soothing thing is having a timeline. Knowing when you will start trying, and what you need to do in that time. I feel there is no problem with “pretending” so to speak that you are pregnant/trying to become pregnant by reading books, taking vitamins – sometimes you just have to do anything to make it calm down a little bit.
I convinced myself I was pregnant once, all the tests – urine, blood tests, even an ultrasound and I still wouldn’t believe the doctors. It was prettttttty bad. So, if I can get through that – I’m sure you’re just as strong and can get through your baby fever. I also like to think of it as “already being a parent” – you’re making this decision for your baby. Whether or not they have been conceived yet, this decision is based soley on them and the life you want to provide for them. That thought always makes me feel better. But browsing babystores doesn’t hurt either 😉
Good luck, and please feel free to PM me, it’d be nice to have someone to chat to myself!