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I'm so sad hive, one of my two kitties is missing. :( Since July 11th. She is not an outdoor cat, but got out one night when I wasn't home. She's not even wearing a collar. (she is microchipped, though). We've put up fliers, called every Animal place we can think of, and still nothing. It's especially hard because this is my first pet as an adult, and the first pet for FI and me together.

I think my other kitty is very lonely and FI has been talking about getting another kitty soon. But is it too soon? How do you all get over the loss of a pet?

How sad!  I hope you can find your kitty!  Our hearts would be broken if we lost our kitties!

thanks everyone. We are pretty heartrbroken over it. :(

Oh no! So so sorry your kitty is missing. Hopefully she'll come back soon or someone will have found her and brought her to a shelter. Don't give up! 

Did you post a pictures of her on your local craigslist section stating she is missing? Put with the ad that she needs regular medication even if she doesn't so that anyone who may have found her and wants to keep her will just return her, most folk don't want a sickly animal or you could state you will hand out a small reward.

Hope you find your cat real soon, safe and sound.

Thank you for all your kind thoughts and suggestions!

@DJones: we actually haven't put a picture in the newspaper, but thank you for the suggestion. I'll look into that now.

@shortcherriez: thank you for that website. I'm going to have to check that one out. We did use www.findtoto.com another missing pet resource. It's kind of expensive, but based on which package you purchase, they will call all of your neighbors with the missing pet alert. I don't know what the return rate of pets is, but so far we haven't recieved any calls from using this service.

@leafy: we did post on Craigslist, but I hadn't put anything on there about medication. I will go put up a new one with that info, thanks.

@MsHymanRoth: We have called the police department and the surrounding area's animal controls. The dissapointing thing about the "village" we live in, is that we don't have an animal control, so it makes me nervous that if someone does find her, they won't know where to turn her in. We've also called several of the area shelters...but she is microchipped and I know most of these places are really good about scanning right away.

We did decide to foster a kitten to help cheer up our other cat, Pearl, this weekend. So far, Pearl is NOT a fan of the new little one. We haven't named the new one because if Pearl doesn't like her we won't adopt her. When we first adopted Pearl as a kitten, it only took Ruby a few hours to come around to her, so we're really unsure about how to proceed.

At first, Pearl just hissed at the new one and walked away. Now, she's approaching the new one, hissing and batting at her (nothing hurtful or really, really mean). We've been keeping the new one in the bathroom or bedroom, giving Pearl plently of attention, so she knows she still the "mistress of the home." I also read that we should let the cats hiss it out...that's their normal way of showing who's "boss" but it's so hard to watch! The new one just wants to play and gets so sad when she's rejected. If any of you have experience with this, I'd love to hear.

And, really, thank you so much for your kind words and suggestions!! It means a lot.

Hi Ejs4y8! Thanks for all the encouragement and advice! I'm happy to say that we are at a "hiss only once or twice" a day situation! They seem to be playing well together and everyone seems happy! And, we decided to name the new one. She has very large eyes and is soo loveable, so the name is "Boo" from Monsters Inc. (and that happens to be our nickname for each other, lol) It just fits.

On a sad note, I had recieved a call from a kind stranger that they thought they saw our missing kitty (Ruby) the night before at a certain area, they recognized the cat as a Calico. We rushed over there but didn't see her. We had hope though! Someone had seen her and it sounded like she was alive and healthy and maybe even happy. So, a day later I decided to walk around the area again calling her name. I stopped suddenly when I saw a calico, that was for sure NOT Ruby. My hopes fell, this was probably the cat the kind stranger had seen. :( So, as of now, no calls about Ruby's whereabouts since two weeks ago.

@Djones, I took your advice and put an add in our weekly newspaper, thanks!

I am so sorry VegasBaby.  I am absolutely crossing my fingers (and toes) for you!  I would be so heartbroken if I lost my cat and my FI would be inconsolable, I know.  Please accept lots of hive hugs and good thoughts coming your way! 

I'll be praying for a safe return! 

update: we got a call yesterday that someone found her, but this won't be a happy ending. We had adopted another kitten thinking she would never come home and we recently bought a place that has strict rules about the number of animals we can have. We won't be able to bring her home. tear. bittersweet, to say the least. But she will hopefully find a good forever home soon.

Oh no!!  Thats so sad. 

Do two of your cats look similar?  Can you sneak her in??  I couldn't imagine not having my cat back after her being missing for 3 months.

@Daisybride: we could probably sneak her in, but FI refuses to have 3 cats, which I totally understand. We're upset, but we just can't do it. We don't know how we can give up any of our cats, but we don't want 3 cats. we're in between a rock and a hard place right now. I had to call the shelter we adopted her from and explaint the situation and I started crying. FI keeps asking if I want to go just see her, and I keep saying I don't want to see her if I can't bring her home with me. this sucks.

we live in our own townhome and they have a strict ONE pet rule. Seriously, ONE! we're already tempting the fates with two I feel like, lol. ugh.

Eh, you're already breaking the rule with one extra cat, I'd go for it.  As for your FI, if I were you, I'd really push for this.  It's not like you are getting a 3rd cat, you are just bringing home your baby!!  Seriously, having 3 cats can't be much different than having 2! 

I know, I couldn't believe that one pet rule. I mean, we OWN this place, how can they tell us something like that?? Maybe I will try and butter up FI, but he is pretty adament about it. He's not a mean guy, but he's never been a cat fan, and he's mildy allergic and although he now loves our pets........................

Wait you own the place??  So this isn't a lease agreement, it's like a HOA rule?

Haha, we have the same "one pet" rule with our HOA.  I never knew it until I was looking for some other info in the HOA docs and came across it.  I don't take that stuff seriously.  We have 2 cats and two of our friends who live in the same neighborhood also have 2 cats each. 

BTW, sorry if I'm coming off as being pushy, I'm just really emotional about my cats :)

@Daisy: not being pushy at all. :) I just know how far I can push my FI. This may be where I pick my battles. Please don't think I'm taking this lying down. We had some serious "discussions" about it yesterday.