- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So I’ve just returned from my bachelorette weekend and couldn’t be happier to be home. My girls had supposedly been planning it since June and the whole weekend basically fell apart. The background is that I have 3 bridesmaids and 1 MOH whom I’ve known to longest so I chose her to be MOH to avoid drama between any of the other girls but has caused contention between them anyways. My MOH offered her parents cabin which was free of cost to all of us, so to avoid costs we decided that was a good idea. After that the girls were supposed to put together everything else, I had one request…a pontoon boat rental on the local lake at a cost of 20$/pp for 3 hours and had hinted at a massage at a local spa if people could afford it. At this point the cost to them was very low seeing as the cabin was free and my MOH offered to drive us all up the mountain. My MOH said in the middle of July she was sending out invitations and no one recieved them until a week before the event and on the invitation she said she would be bringing her 2 giant dogs. I also had to fly down to southern CA from Northern CA about an hour flight which I took care of.
The day of my bachelorette we were supposed to get picked up from my Mom’s house where my mom had a spread of pink champagne, apps, and some decorations, as I was sitting enjoying that waiting, my MOH calls and says shes having financial problems, will be 20 minutes late and the jacuzzi at the cabin is not working. Ok bummer, I keep waiting…15 minutes later when she is supposed to be there she texts my bridesmaid she is still an hour out, an hour later she says she is still another hour away. My bridesmaids had all been dropped off so they have no transportation at this point so I decide to just start driving up the mountain as rush hour is approaching and I would like to start my party and we could meet the MOH up there. We get up the mountain and the MOH has put the wrong address on the invitation so we can’t find the cabin four about 20 mins and we also recieved the wrong key code so wait for another 15 min for the MOH to call us back to get in. When we get in I realize none of the girls have coordinated on snacks, ice, mixers so we have 1 case of warm beer, a half eaten bag of chips my friend brought as her snack for the car, a couple bottles of warm champagne and one bottle of vodka. At this point nobody offers to head to the store to get supplies, we just sit there and wait for the MOH. MOH gets there 4 hours later. Also has no supplies, no craft box she offered to bring so we could decorate wedding shoes, some decorations but never puts them up. We try and make the best of it and start to drink and listen to music. The next day when we are supposed to go on the boat we wake up to a torrential downpour. I know no one can help the weather, so I’m not upset at all, we being to get ready and as I’m getting ready my MOH and one of the bridesmaids start yelling at each other because there was no alternate plan being made and she felt the MOH since she knew the area should have at least some other suggestions. My MOH disappears for 2 hours leaving us sitting at her cabin. The girls begin contacting my fiance asking him what to do, he looks up the area and makes some suggestions for them, we end up going bowling and to a local bar. My MOH is still MIA and has begun texting eveyone how hurt and mad she is that no one appreciates what she put together and how could we leave without her. She then calls me and bitches me out for not appreciating things and how the way I am acting is hurtful.
Anyways, we finally meet up with her, things are going better and I get an email from my Mom’s friend who is throwing me a bridal shower and sends me a list of who hasn’t responded to the shower RSVP which deadline is the day of, all of my bridesmaids are on it. I get pissed and tell all of them to RSVP whatever there response is, and that I think it’s rude that out of all the people invited it’s my own BMs that can’t be bothered to respond. One of my BMs begins arguing with me that I have no right to be mad, that of course they were all coming they just didn’t think it was neccessary to RSVP because they were bridal party. Even though they aren’t throwing the shower or even involved, they haven’t even met the woman throwing it. At dinner later that night everyone makes a scene about payment in front of me, I pay for the wine I ordered with dinner becuase it was “too expensive” Later that night we go to a bar, everyone ditches me and starts talking to all the guys in a bachelor party we ran into and at the end of the night when we come home wasted eveyone let me pass out on the floor fully clothed while they all found there ways to the beds in the cabin. The next day we are supposed to go on a hike, no one takes initiative to find a trail or anything..I decide I’m going on a walk no one joins. Even though a massage was a planned activity according to my MOH two of the girls say they arent coming because it’s too expensive and my MOH ends up paying for not just me but the other two who are bitching and they let her. I know this sounds ridiculous and I tried to go with the flow as best I could but I’ve been looking forward to haveing a bachelorette for a long time and I even brought them little swag bags I personally decorated with a pashmina for the wedding and a little bridesmaid spa kit and another small gift for them to thank them for throwing me the weekend. I didn’t even recieve a card from any of them. I’m really nervous for the wedding and after seeing how casually they took care of this I am doubting my bridal party choices.