My bachelorette party was boring…help!

posted 2 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

It’s over, there’s nothing you can do, don’t dwell on it.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It’s over and done with, everyone will have their own opinions of how the night went but it’s not a big deal that things weren’t great. It sounds like a typical night out, maybe not as special as you wanted it to be but not terrible either. I hope as the night went on you remained positive and thankful for those who did come, as an obviously upset bride would’ve surely brought down the mood.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

raeclark:  That’s a lot of girls!! I’m sorry you didn’t have fun! I’m sure you’re wedding will be ball!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I can relate somewhat to how you were feeling leading up to your bachelorette.  I also had invited girls from many different groups and had given my sister (MOH – planning everything) a list of like 22 girls.  She was planning it as a surprise so I had no idea where or what she was planning.  It eventually leaked out to me that we were spending a weekend at my family cottage – it’s over 2 hours away in the middle of the woods on a lake where there is no cell reception or phone, but there is satellite tv and electricity.

Anyway, little by little people started backing out and I ended up having 6 girls plus my mom and sister go.  I was pretty disappointed as the no’s came in, and even more annoyed at the ones who said they would come and then backed out like, the night before with various (bad) excuses.

I actually had a really fun time though with the girls that did come.  It was super cheap and we got to drink and be silly for a whole weekend.

I’m sorry yours didn’t turn out the way you wanted.  Try to think about the ones that did come out to support you.  They all want to see you happy and that’s what counts.  Just know that your wedding will be a much bigger and exciting party! 🙂

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

raeclark:  its over. done with. move on. mine was pretty boring too. I am not a party girl, but we all agreed to go to Ocean City, MD – which I loved – the food, hanging out at the beach, but the night scene, is not for me. We went home a day early. Lol

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wanted to add, we made up for it at the wedding, bc our wedding was awesome!!! full dance floor all night, great music and food. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

raeclark:  That stinks! I guess all you can really do is make sure that if you ever plan a bachelorette party, you’ll make sure to do it differently. Your wedding will NOT be anticlimatic so perhaps that day will make the low key b-party seem less consequential in time.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Help with what? Sorry your party sucked. Perhaps your expectations were too high.

Afterall, its just another night out.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m sorry you are disappointed but you really shouldn’t let it bother you too much. Perhaps your expectations were too high. And 8 girls is a good sized group of people to go out with. Any larger might’ve been chaos. Would you have rather it been a drunk mess and woken up with regrets? 

Focus on the wedding which is probably going to be great. And wouldn’t you rather your out of town friends fly in for a wedding rather than the bachelorette party? Maybe they couldn’t afford two flights. 

Try to remember that life isn’t a Kristen Wiig movie. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

It’s like a birthday party or New Years eve… Too much build up, rarely meets expectations. I would just be grateful all those girls showed up for you and NEVER complain about it to them.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

 

raeclark:  I can empathise. I had quite a few people worrying about money for my bachelorette, I didn’t want people to struggle so cut a number of things I was really excited about only to have people make excuses and not come anyway. That cut the head count which meant we had to cut another thing as we didn’t have the minimum head count, at the time I was really hurt and disappointed. I ended up with just 6 on my bachelorette and, activities and extras having been cut, it was a little on the sedate side. When I see pictures of other peoples bachelorettes with large groups, all dressed up doing activities and having a great time I sometimes feel a little sad my friends didn’t make the same effort but then I remind myself that whilst the wedding and anything related to it is currently the centre of my world other people have busy lives, different responsibilites and financial pressures and my bachelorette maybe wasn’t so important in the scheme of things. I also remind myself of the work my MOH put in to planning things when shes a new mum, she had some really sweet ideas, and I am grateful to her for the thought and time she put into things.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Be grateful for those that were there with you.  The rest of it, let it go.  It’s over and can’t be changed.

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