(Closed) My Bachelorette party weekend is canceled =(..and maybe my Honeymoon too.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It doesn’t make you a horrible person to go away for a few days.  It is stressful for you too and you deserve a little bit of relaxation.

Post # 4
Member
858 posts
Busy bee

awww *hugs* i’m so sorry you and your family are going through this, you have to think about what your dad would want you to do, I am sure he wouldnt want you to miss your honeymoon you could always shorten it a few days if you dont want to be gone that long

Post # 5
Hostess
23639 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

*HUGS*!!  This is a lot to take in for anyone, let alone a bride in waiting.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to continue forward with your plans, and i think your Dad would be crushed if you cancelled things to be with him.  However, looking at it from your perspective, I’m just not sure that you could properly enjoy yourself on your honeymoon – knowing what you’re telling us now, it sounds like you are incredibly close with your dad and would only be thinking about him the entire length of the honeymoon.  My advice would be to postpone the honeymoon for a later date.  My mom had breast cancer while I was away for graduate school, and being away from her was the hardest thing ever, so I remember the feeling.  So many best wishes for you and your family during this hard time! 🙁

Post # 6
Hostess
11299 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@OhBeeHive84: I’m so sorry to hear of your news. You seem to be doing the right thing for you and your family though. Thoughts are with you.  

Post # 7
Member
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Thats awful. My thoughts are with you. If i were in your position i would postpone the honeymoon and spend as much time as i could with my dad. *hugs*

Post # 8
Member
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should have fun on your honeymoon and it doesn’t sound like you will if you leave your Dad.  Maybe wait and then you’ll still have it to look forward to.  I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. 

Post # 9
Member
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have no idea where your dad lives, but it says you are in NYC.  Perhaps you and your fiance should go on a honeymoon that is within driving distance so that you have the option of coming home if you feel it is necessary.

I think honeymoons are really important, even if they’re not far away, because it just gives you time to absorb the fact that you are now married.  And its good to have a little “fun” time during this difficult phase.  BUT I can see how it would be really stressful to go far away and find yourself feeling “trapped” in St. Lucia if all you want is to be near your dad.  

So I say go on a honeymoon, but go somewhere nearby and perhaps cut it down to less than 8 days.  Heck, you said you had a beach house rented in Ocean City for your bachelorette – maybe you can talk to the owner and rent the house for that week for your honeymoon instead and be a few hours away by car.  That way you can have your alone time, but if you just cant handle it, you can come back home.

You can always go to the Caribbean another time.

Post # 10
Member
5894 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sorry your family is going through such a tough time.

I agree with @Ginger123: take a honeymoon, but be in driving distance. Getting away, even for a few days, after such a momentus occasion and life transition will be very important. Maybe you can go to the FingerLakes or Niagra Falls or even Canada for 4-5 days.

Post # 13
Member
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would definately still take a vacation, it would be good for you to get away and I’m sure your dad would want you to go. Just be close enough that you can drive back if god forbid his state really takes a turn for the worst. Your and your family are in my prayers.

Post # 14
Member
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@OhBeeHive84:

If your dad is in the hospital, on or before your flight leaves ( a few days, possly even a week) they will wave your change of flight fee. Meaning you can cancel and rebook without penalty, however, you flight may cost more becuase of short notice rebooking. They will call the hospital for verification.

Post # 15
Member
299 posts
Helper bee

Maybe you can reduce the length of the honeymoon and still go?  I think going would be good for you, but only if your mind can actually “go” and not be worrying about things at home the entire time.

Perhaps if he’s just been diagnosed, doctors will have a better handle on his pain management within the next few weeks, and it won’t be so hard on you.

Post # 16
Member
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand where you are coming from, I actually had a similiar situation years ago.  You need to do what’s right for “you”.  You will know the right decision, just go with your gut.  Close-by driving trip may be great for you, St. Lucia will always be there.

Best of luck to your Dad, hang in there.

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