my bachelorette weekend wasn't that fun and it makes me sad

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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3948 posts
Honey bee

I can understand where you are coming from. My ideal night would have been eating pizza in my PJ’s and watching chick-flicks. But my girls put together a wonderful night for me of what they thought a “real” bachelorette party should be. Everyone dressed up more than me/got more drunk than me and it’s fine.

I think it’s one of those nights that girls can build up in their heads. People expect it to be “THE BEST NIGHT EVER!!” and whenever there is that pressure it can sometime be a let down. Not every bachelor/bachelorette party is like the Hangover.

Your wedding day will be totally different. Its what you guys have planned, thought about, etc. and it will be exactly how you dreamed it. You’ll be so busy all day smiling, dancing, talking to people, and then it will all be over…like a dream!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@VMars:  ((HUGS))  Well, take this as a sign you’re really and truly ready for marriage!  You’re happy to put your party days behind you and that is not a bad thing.  I’m sorry you didn’t enjoy your party more but at least you tried and you have legitimate and understandable reasons for feeling the way you do.  Don’t feel guilty, one day you’ll laugh about it. 

The wedding will still be fabulous; it’s the true prize, not the parties.  It’s about marrying the one you love.  Smile, you’ll be fine!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think anyone has as much fun at their bachelorette as they expect, I know I didn’t. And I’ve heard similar things from other friends too. I wouldn’t dwell on it too much- I’m sure your wedding will be just as incredible as you’ve planned it out to be!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@VMars:  It is a little known fact that bachelor and bachelorette parties disappoint more often than a pair of cheap shoes…why you ask? 

Because last hoorah’s are pretty hard to plan, and in my experience, the more you plan something, the more opportunities you have for it to fail abysmally.

Secondly, adding alcohol in any large group of people that don’t normally hang out or drink together is usually a recipe for disaster…because when people drink, they’re at their most amplified, the filters are down and the gloves come off…so if you’ve got a bunch of ladies…who are worse than men when they drink BTW….you’re going to get a little paint traded between the larger personalities…

Third….I’d like to know who thought the all male review is even remotely sexy or fun…because I can think of like…50 things that are more fun than having some greased up dude in a pair of chaps and a red thong named Panther shaking his unit in my face and man handling me…its beyond horrifying and borders on hazing in my opinion….and that’s where they took you, isn’t it?

Either way, being upset about it is fine, but you need to know, you and every other bride out there had the EXACT SAME expectations and found themselves disappointed, embarassed or crying for a weird reason at some point in the night, because they’re getting married, its stressful, they’re wearing a sash that says, “Bride” and getting cajoled into drinking shooters out of a plastic weenie shaped shot glass….its ok, the wedding will be so much better and wonderful and lovely that what you’ve just endured.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@VMars:  Ugh. I’m sorry. Seems your friends got so caught up in doing a “bachlorette” type party that they forgot what YOU wanted.

I think one day you will look back and laugh but I can imagine it sucks right now.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@VMars:  I feel yah a bit.  I planned an over night camping trip to save everyone money (avoiding going and buying expensive drinks etc) and everyone was on board with it at first! So I rented two sites, but in the end, everyone bailed and the only people there were my mum, (YAH, another long story at how that happened), my twin, and my best friend came out for a few hours and then got picked up.  So did it meet my expectations? Not  really, but i did have the people closest to me in the world there, so we made the most of it. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel ya. I actually really liked my, and the girls really planned it to be very “me” and casual. But we had a lot of cancellations at the last minute so it was only a small group. 

I just said “listen, i’m not dying. I will still be around to go out with so its not overly important”

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not having one, by choice, for this exact reason. I just don’t feel it’s worth it. That’s just me though. (Shrug)

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@lealorali:  “Ugh. I’m sorry. Seems your friends got so caught up in doing a “bachlorette” type party that they forgot what YOU wanted.

+1.

OP, I think you should find one or two things you loved about your bachelorette party and every time a negative though pops into your mind, you replace it with the positive one.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s ok. I bombed my friend’s bachelorette party in the same way. I tried to get her drunk and crazy but it turned out to be really awkward and boring because no one was really up for drinking.

I made it up by taking her and her sisters out to a ceramics painting studio where we made mugs for the couple’s home together. She cried because she had such a good time.

Sometimes, it’s making sure your girls know where you stand on the idea of a “festive” time. I’m sure you will look back on it one day and laugh. Your girls love you. That’s what matters 🙂

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