- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Anyone else have a less-than-wonderful time at their bachelorette party? I’m writing this not to complain- at all- but I feel like I have to get this out. Maybe others can relate. I truly have amazing friends and they were extremely generous in planning this event, and that makes it all the worse because I feel really guilty.
The things that were less-than-amazing:
-before the weekend started I found out a relative was in the hospital and I was worried about that all weekend
-one person who I had really been looking forward to seeing couldn’t attend at the last minute (totally legit reason)
-I tried to go snorkeling and failed spectacularly and felt like an idiot. I then got irrationally emotional about it and started crying at the beach which is not like me AT ALL (very emotional lately, I blame wedding stress)
-I had brought a cute dress to wear out, but next to my friends I was way underdressed. They all brought their most over the top “going out” clothes. I feel guilty that this bothered me but it did.
-the plan was to go to a bar but instead they took me to a “show” of sorts and I was extremely uncomfortable. I hated the attention and I was the only bachelorette not wearing sashes/tiaras/etc. (by choice). The drinks were disgusting. I could tell I was being a wet blanket and felt guilty about not having fun, making it even worse. I had at some point specifically said I didn’t want to do anything like that, but it was kind of a last minute surprise that I went along with, thinking it would be okay
-everyone drank way more than me and some people got really annoying
I think eventually I’ll look back on this and laugh, and remember the fun times more than the not-so-fun times, but right now I am just not feeling happy at all. I assumed this would be one of the most fun times of my whole life and instead it made me feel like a total bitch. I really just wanted to hang out with my friends like it was any other weekend, not do the typical “bachelorette party” stuff. I have nothing against it, it just isn’t me– I’m a total introvert and like more low-key activities.
Once again, I LOVE my friends and they are the best. Most brides would have had the time of their lives. The problem is me, I’m the weirdo.
Oh, and now I’m worried I won’t have fun at the wedding either . . . which would be a million times worse.
Anyone else have a disappointing bachelorette party, or just me?