(Closed) My best friend ditched me… (Long post)

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this – it’s not fair, and it must hurt! Unfortunately I think she’s jealous, and doesn’t know how to deal. Something similar happened with my former BFF/MOH, and it lead to her no longer being in teh wedding. Despite trying to cater to her and try to hang out with her and spend time with her, she’d flip everything back onto me and act like I was attacking her. This whole wedding thing sometimes really gets to people.

Sending you good wishes!!!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Some people just don’t like to be forthright if there’s a problem. Honestly, whatever her problem is, it’s her problem. I there is something you did or didn’t do, she can’t very well expect you to read her mind to do anything about it. IMO, just take the hint and move on. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@misssparklebee:  Is it possible she’s upset that you’re engaged?  Does she like your boyfriend?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

people’s reactions to an engagement are so strange.  i think she is jealous.  i hope she comes to her senses!

Post # 10
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I can kind of see where she is coming from because it seems like your anger at her sort of escalated quickly.  I bet you would be in a different situation right now if you had called her to talk about being upset.  Texting someone to let them know you are mad doesn’t usually seem to end well.  

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@misssparklebee:  This is so strange.  But you know, my best friend since 5th grade acted weird after I got married.  We eloped and she was one of the only people I called.  She was really happy for me on the phone.  I know this is dumb… but after I posted the pix on FB she never said like “Wow, these are really nice” or “I like your dress”.  People I had not talked to in a long time were commenting.  Even when I admitted on FB we eloped after 2 days, I had like 60 something comments — nothing from her.

We never did talk about it.  And we lived too far apart for me to go to her door… which I totally would have.  Maybe seeing each other in person will break the ice and you can have an open discussion.  (: Good luck, I hope it gets better.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@misssparklebee:  Yeah.. eff that then. You’ve got better things to do than worry about her BS.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I personally would just show up at her house but I’ve done that in the past to a now ex best friend lol it was in high school & she was being a bitch and decided she wasn’t going to answer my phone calls or texts or emails for almost 2 weeks (when we talked MULTIPLE times every single day usually) and at day 11 or 12 I had had enough & just drove the 20 mins to her house & knocked on her door. Her mom answered the door (with a face mask on which cracked me up) & I just said I need to talk to my best friend please. My friend was SOOO pissed but we argued, yelled a bit, and hashed it out. Turned out she was just in a depressed mood & needed some alone time & we agreed that if she was gonna do that again, she needed to freaking tell me or I’d just show up at her door again. It worked out for us (though we had a huge falling out a couple years ago so maybe I should have just let her go then & saved myself some drama lol)

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