My best friend had to drop out as a bridesmaid :'(

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@roguehnp2005:  Aw I’m so sorry! that really stinks. I’m sure they’ll be there in spirit at least 🙂

Post # 4
210 posts
Helper bee

I understand you are sad that your best friend can’t be at your wedding. And Im not saying that to make fun of you I truly mean it. It sucks. And there’s nothing wrong with uneven numbers, I like the idea of 1BM and 2GM. I might have to do that at my wedding actually. I think its a great idea.

Post # 6
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@roguehnp2005:  awwww, that does suck. I’m sorry for you! 

Try to see it from the positive side. While it really stinks not to have them at the wedding, you know you love each other and that’s going to stay the same. What with all the stories that I read on here about BMs drama, it’s better to not have them at your wedding but have them continue to be a dear part of your life than the other way around 🙂

maybe you can order a mini wedding cake and save your centerpieces for when you invite her over to see the pictures afterwards? 

Post # 7
133 posts
Blushing bee

It sucks that she had to drop out, but props to you for having such good spirits about it! I agree with @MsquareM. Maybe the two of you could have a girls night, have some good food and drinks, and show her pictures. I wouldn’t make it just about the wedding though 🙂

Post # 8
1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@roguehnp2005:  I’m so sorry to hear that! I am in a similar boat. My sister was supposed to be my MOH and she works in Korea as an ESL teacher and it looks like her employer might not give her enough time off to come home. It makes me livid that some people’s employers are so inconsiderate about important events for people like a wedding. 🙁

Post # 11
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

That’s terrible, I’m so sorry, but you are a good friend for keeping your perspective about it and not freaking out or insisting that she chance losing her job.

Post # 14
1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@roguehnp2005:  Bummer. We don’t have a final word yet, so I’m keeping hope, but it doesn’t look good. I am keeping my cool for now, but I know I’m going to be devastated if she doesn’t come. So I can only imagine how you must be feeling. 🙁

Post # 15
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Aw that sucks!!   I’m really sorry that this happened to you, but at least you have a good perspective on the situation!  

Is there any way you can include your friend in any pre-wedding stuff like rehearsal dinner or pre-wedding girls time?  That way she still feels included and you can get that girly time with her before the wedding….  

Post # 16
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m so sorry… I work for a company that doesn’t allow you to take holidays off.. if you are scheduled for a holiday and you call off, its an automatic firing. Summer holidays anyway, luckily we get thanksgiving, christmas & new years.

If you are really worried about uneven numbers, is there anyone else you would be comfortable with asking? Friends? Sisters? Fi’s sister? Cousins? I don’t think uneven numbers are a big deal, but I totally understand the matchy-matchy thing .

I’m sorry your friend can’t be there, but hopefully she can still celebrate some of your other wedding moments [rehearsal dinner, shower, bachelorette]

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