- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
So my FI found a photographer we like and had engagement pictures takes. My FI was really nervous and uncomfortable about the whole “acting natural” and having our pictures taken. We didn’t do many posed pictured, which maybe we should have (my FI is much more comfortable with posed pictures), but I wanted to get shots of us interacting and being cute.
Anyway, my FI looked annoyed or confused in about half of the final engagement pictures (I looked good though and my best friend keeps saying that we need to get a new photographer. He said he discussed it with a good friend of his (who used to be a wedding photographer) and she expressed concerns too. He’s brought this up about four or five times now and each time I tell him that I like our photographer, and the wedding pictures should be better becuase now I think my FI “gets” the whole acting natural while pictures are being shot (he did finally loosen up after awhile), plus we’ll have lots of posed shots (which anyone can take).
Given that I’m a bride and a dissertating graduate student and teetering on the brink of insanity, this last time today when he brought it up really upset me. My FI and I don’t want to get a new photographer and, quite frankly, can’t afford to lose the deposit even if we did want to.
Has anybody else had stuff like this happen? I can’t help but wonder if it’s just some random thing he’s (my best friend) has latched onto to try to have some control in the situation (he’s sad that I’ll be moving out of state when I get married). I’m touched that he’s so concerned and wants to be involved (he’s typically such a boy about the wedding stuff I tell him about), but enough is enough! What should I tell him if he brings it up again?