(Closed) My best friend is being a B

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think I would relax until the actual engagement, if she’s not excited then, then I would feel a bit bummed.

i would also not jump to conclusions that she’s not happy for you, it’s the holidays, maybe she’s been busy!

noone will ever be as excited about your engage,ent, planning or wedding as you are. Don’t set super high expectations for friends or you will be disappointed.


Post # 4
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

When I got engaged one of my (former) friends said “wow. Cool.” And that’s it. Nothing else. Didn’t ask me anything, and I got proposed to on vacation, so she really could have faked it via a text. I got a text a week and a half later more excited about it, but it was too little too late. 


Maybe re-evaluate if you want her to be your maid of honor. 

Post # 5
1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It is the holiday season, so maybe she’s really busy right now.  I would see how she reacts when you get engaged and make your decision after that.  Sorry she isn’t excited, but the bees are SUPER excited for you!!! That is a HUGE step- you are getting closer!!!

Post # 6
9073 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nobody is going to be as excited as you are. It sucks, but that’s just how it is.

That being said, it is the holidays and there are a lot of things going on with people. Maybe she’s just busy, or maybe there is something going on under the surface that she’s not telling you? I think asking her before a proposal is jumping the gun and you should wait.

Post # 7
114 posts
Blushing bee

Hmmm has she got a wedding date booked? Could there be a possibility that she is worried you’ll end up getting married before her?

Like PP’s have said, I’d wait until you get engaged and see how she reacts then, if she is the same I’d be reconsidering whether I wanted her as my Maid/Matron of Honor.

But anyway, exciting news for you!! Hooray!!!

Post # 8
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@PinkPinstripes:  +1 

You’re jumping the gun a bit, OP. 

Post # 9
363 posts
Helper bee

People can be very selfish sometimes and not realize that something means a lot to you…give her another chance in case she just has other things going on in her life, but she is wrong to have treated you that way. When the engagement happens (woohoo!!! it will be here so soon & before you know it!) she may be in more of a mood to celebrate with you :). I am happy for you, though! Congrats! :]

Post # 10
5109 posts
Bee Keeper

@PinkPinstripes:  +1

She’s probably getting her guard up for you, because lots of guys give a timeline and don’t stick to it. We had a similar situation with a friend a few months ago, he ended up proposing 8 months later. So it was hard for us to be like “YAY” every time she thought it was going to happen. Wait until the actual engagement and I’m sure she will be more excited.

Post # 11
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@countrygirl12:  I’m sorry you’re disappointed in her reaction.  Maybe it’s because you’re not actually engaged yet?

Post # 12
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Hyperventilate:  +1

Nobody is going to be as excited as you are. It sucks, but that’s just how it is.

Plus you aren’t even offically engaged. Try and scale back your excitement meter, this is going to be a reaccuring thing once you do get engaged (like with wedding planning).


Post # 13
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@ChuckNorris:  I agree! Guys don’t seem to typically stick with their timeline and she may be doing some damage control. On the other hand not talking to you for that long after that is odd. Have you tried getting in touch with her?

Post # 14
69 posts
Worker bee

I’m guessing she may have excitement burn out, especially if you’ve been giving “big news” each time what seems like a big milestone to you happens.  

I had a friend who would go nuts every time her SO (now FH) did something that made her think the proposal was coming.  We all kind of burned out on excitement for her through a year and 3 months of “I think it’s coming this weekend/holiday/dinner at his parents”.

She may also feel that you aren’t intesested in her engagment/planning etc because your understandably absorbed in your own.  

Wait till it happens.  Let it be the climax of the process.  Until then, we’re all here waiting with you 🙂

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