- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
i need some advice my best friend od 20+ years seems to be getting mad at me for very lil reasons lately its just not like her. i did not make her MOH in my wedding she is a BM and she has been fine with this for over a year now my FSIL is my MOH my best friend is not into weddings or anything girlie and i really did not think she would want to caz she never showed any interest in the planning of my wedding she did not even plan her own wedding her mother did caz my BF did not even want to get married in the first place so shes not into weddings and would seen irritated when i brought up the wedding details she seemed not interested and would ask me if i was sure i wanted to do this (get married) she wouls go on to say its alot you know he has 2 kids you would be taking on and ect… yes i know all of this and im ready for it all the kids husband and wonderful step father for my son whos father does not bother with my son but it seem like she was pointing out all the things she hated in her marriage. me and my FH have a wonderful relationship with us and our kids i dont understand her questioning if im ready for this im 40 years old not 20 years old lol and i could see if i called her with home problems but i dont ever caz i dont have problem where i would need to talk to someone about it. and now she seems to be giving ma an attitude any chance she gets. she did not care about the MOH situation until now the wedding is coming closer and her friends/co workers at work are asking her why she ia not MOH? so she asked me and i told her she never showed interest in the wedding planning she seemed irritated when i talked to her about them. i tried bringing her dress shopping for my gown but she could never seem to come. i asked her about her dress and she said i dont care what dress what color i will walk down the isle to anything you want me to it does not matter to me.
i dont know what to do just give her time or try to talk to her about it. i told her i did not ask her Caz i did not think she would want all the responsibilities of MOH.
and i really dont think she could do it not $$ wise but i dont think she cares about weddings at all. she did not care about her own wedding and i was nothing but a guest at her wedding and i was happy and fine with her decision i never questioned her about it. so i dont know what to do. shes kinds being vague with me and last week she invited me over and i told her i might not be able to make it caz i had things to to but my other friends was coming over by her too and she could not make it either i had gotten a call from my FH ex wife asking if she could drop the kids off early she gotten called in to work i said no problem and had the kids earlier then i thought i would my BF wanted us to come over swimming and i did not want to bring my FH kids there caz her pool is deep and his kids cant swim i told her this she went out and bought floats and food i did not know this and i told her i did not know if i would be able to come. that day i did not feel well so i did not go and shes mad caz she spent $$ on food but i told her i was not sure about it. but knowing her as long as i do i feel like its just a reason to be mad at me. i dont know how to make things right with her. i love her and value our friendship. i feel like she does not want me to get married and my other friend feels she is jealous of my. i hope its not true but she seems to question my relationship asking me if im sure i want to do this. yes im sure i tell her and she acts like im making a mistake. we are not 25 years old going to the bars and i think thats what she wants for me to be single like her. any advice would help. i dont want to lose her as a friend.