Post # 1
Looking for input on what I should do in this situation… My best friend recently posted in a group on Facebook that his brain tumor has returned and how he’s not sure how to cope and break the news to his family. This was a few days ago and he has not told me yet. It is an easy subject to talk about for us seeing as we’re both young adult cancer survivors. I completely understand the shock of a new cancer diagnosis but it just seems weird he hasn’t told me as we frequently talk about our health issues. I texted him asking if everything was okay and he just said “Yep I’m fine”. Ideally I’d go see him but it’s a 5 hour drive. I’m not sure if I should come right out and say I know because maybe if he hasn’t told me, he doesn’t want me to know for whatever reason. What should I do?
Post # 2
Oh gosh, I’m so sorry! I would just maybe let him know that you saw his post on FB and say if he needs to talk, or whatever he needs, you’re there for him.
Post # 3
He will talk about it when he’s ready.
Its his news and he gets to talk/not talk about it as suits him.
Post # 4
I think let him break the news. Maybe he is going through something (like denial and shock) and he wants to be in a certain position before he shares it with otherS. Just be there for him and keep the communication open!! I wish him the best! I am a brain tumor survivor as well (although not cancerous)
Post # 5
I don’t know if you should say something or not BUT
If you think it’s possible his friends or family saw the post as well, then I think you really should mention that you saw the FB post.
Post # 6
So sorry. I donno, breaking the news so hard, it may be a relief to him that you aleady know. I guess it really depends on your relationship.
Post # 7
If he posted it to a FB group then it’s not exactly a secret. How about something like “I read your facebook post. That was news I never wanted to hear. You know you’re in my thoughts, I want to respect your space, but am here (and not going anywhere) if you want to talk more.”
Post # 8
Roxytiki: I’m really sorry to hear this, but I would give him time and not come out and confront him with the fact that you know. Without reading the post on FB that he wrote – it sounds like he needs a little time and space, so I would respect that.
He sure is lucky to have you in his support system though, and I’m sure your shoulder will be ready when he’s looking for one to lean on.