- 3 years ago
…is a no-good, rotten, lying, cheating, emotionally manipulative, terrible person. If I’m not being too subtle.
They’re divorcing after less than four years (and two documented affairs) of marriage. Clearly, he’s not very good at monogamy.
I have no idea how to be a good friend right now. I’d like to fly to [undisclosed location] and kick him right in the bathing suit area. Several times. With workboots on. At the same time, I want to help her navigate these unexpectedly horriffic times and I realize that threatening to kick someone she still loves in the junk is not the least bit helpful. Then she sends me a text saying she’s stepping down as my Matron of Honor but would still like to be a bridesmaid (I have a MOH already) and so now I’m totally crying because while I’m gearing up to marry my FI in 318 days (but who’s counting?), she’s ending her marriage.
So, of course, I turn to Google and you Bees to try and sort it out. To be a good friend, I suppose I have to NOT kick or smack talk her RCH (that’s rotten cheating husband). I should probably let her direct the conversation? Maybe she doesn’t always want to talk about what she’s going through? Do I keep my wedding chatter to a minimum out of respect?
While I suppose there is always a teensy chance that they’ll reconcile, it’s a pretty teensy chance. It’s because of that teensy chance that I feel I should abstain from kicks and or rants, or sending him a steady stream of WTF ARE YOU THINKING text messages. This guy was my friend — I always called him my Brother in Law, and we as recently as this spring were laughing and hanging out and drinking and whatnot. And now to find out he’s been seeing someone on the side?!
Ugh. I know this isn’t about me. I’m sorry.
Bees! HELP! Help me be a good friend to this amazing, precious, and devastated woman.