My Best Friend's Husband…

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

You are already being a good friend by worrying about what SHE needs and not what you do.

I would just keep in touch with her and let her know she can call on you at any time. “How can I help?” is the only thing you can really say. She is lucky to have such a good friend.

Post # 3
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1884 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

mrswho:  just be there when she needs to talk. Reach out frequently, ask how she is, let her know you’re thinking about her. Maybe fly out/drive over and visit with her for a weekend if you can, and distract her with fun activities. I’d keep the wedding chatter to a minimum for now.

Post # 4
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192 posts
Blushing bee

prahajess:  That’s what I was going to say. Ask how you can help.

 

personally, I’d chatter about the wedding to people who were more emotionally available to be excited and understand that my friend is happy for me over-all, but might not have the emotional availablilty to be excited about specific little details and offer advice.

Post # 5
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4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh, so sorry to hear about your girl!  What a dick. 

I would definitely keep the wedding chatter to a minimum with your friend, at least for now, or unless she brings it up herself.  Even if she does bring it up, try to keep it to a quick response and move on.  To carry on will only send her mind wandering back to her own failed relationhip.  Keep in touch as often as you can, see how she’s doing, don’t make mention of the dick at any time.  Let her lead the convos.  Definitely try and visit her if you have the opportunity…Or better yet, have her come see you so she can get a break.

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