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My BF has testicular cancer :(

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    My BF is only 28 and it was confirmed today that he has testicular cancer.  He works out every day and we both eat so well.  He is going to a specialist to find out if it's spreaded to his lymphatic system.  

    I feel AWFUL that I have been on WB complaining about our timeline and my fertility running out before he is "ready" to propose.  My BF has CANCER and here I am bitching about a stupid engagement.  I just vented on here like 2 days ago.  God I feel like an absolute bitch :(  :(

    We were fooling around on Saturday and I felt a lump on his scrotum area.  I joked that he must be really horny because he was so swollen.  Afterward, we both noted that the swelling and lumpiness did not go away after we "finished".  (Sorry TMI).  That's when he made the appointment.  He works in a pathology lab in a hospital and sees this all the time.  He wasted no time getting himself checked.  I love him for being so smart.

    This will do a number on our chances of ever conceiving.  If he gets chemotherapy, fertility is at risk.  However, I will forego any chance of a child with him as long as he is OKAY.  It REALLY put my "waiting" into perspective.  Until now, my "waiting" anxiety was all around my biological clock (I will be 33 soon).  Now, whatever.  I know my SO wants kids so sperm banking may be a necessity for us.

    Just making a random post.  It's late and I can not sleep.

    I love the hive.  You guys are the best!

     
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    miss_blondie86    November 3, 2012  

    I'm so sorry you are both going through this :( It's so unfair how life can throw you a curve-ball like that.

    It's good he got himself checked so quickly though. When will you know what treatment options are avaliable/recommended to him?

     
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    Coffee cup    December 7, 2012   Sonora, Mexico

    ((HUGS)) I'm so sorry.

    I hope everything goes as good as possible. I'm sending a lot of good vibes your way, keep your head high and support your man in this difficult time.

    again.. (HUGS)

     
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    Olive12    October 6, 2012   Houston

    I am so sorry to hear this. I hope everything will be okay. Please please continue to take care of yourself duing this difficult time. I wish you and your man the best!!!

     
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    sooner365    December 6, 2012   Chandler,AZ

    Prayers and BIG HUG for you and ur BF:))) I hope he caught it early enough and all goes well.

     
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    abby_mb    January 2017  

    :(:( So sorry you are going through this. Prayers go out to you & your FI's families. *hug*

     

     
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    simpleandchic    November 27, 2010   Adelaide, South Australia

    I am so sorry, an i am sending lots of good vibes your way....I am sure everything will turn out ok, he caught it early and he is young and fit. Once this challenge is over I am sure u guys will work out a way to start a family. xxxx

     
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    2dBride    October 6, 2009   Washington, DC.

    I know that a friend who had to go through radiation therapy (for lymphoma) was able to bank sperm beforehand, in case his fertility was impaired.  Might that be an option for your BF?

     
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    missjamie143       Australia

    I'm so sorry to hear that you two are going through this.. I just wanted to let you know that young guys with testicular cancer have really good cure rates (I am a radiation therapist)... Don't be so hard on yourself- you obviously sound like a very supportive girlfriend. Def inquire into freezing sperm.. Make sure it's one of the first things you do!

    I wish you both the best.

     
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    Tickles    September 2, 2015  

    I am so sorry *hugs*. But please don't feel like a bitch, your feelings were valid and you shouldn't be ashamed of them. 

    I really, really, hope that he pulls through A-OK, you are both in my thoughts.

     
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    live laugh love    September 29, 2012  

    xoxoxox omg. I am so sorry

     
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    misrusticj    January 28, 2012  

    I'm so sorry, hoping for the best for you both

     
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    hanzabelle    February 25, 2012   Australia

    Oh I'm so sorry for your bf to have to go through this.. I just wrote a post having a cry because my dress is too small 6 weeks before the wedding and I was distraught and in tears.. then I read your post and realised something... the most important thing in the world is the people we love.. nothing else matters.

    I'm sending all my positive and loving wishes to you , your BF and your families in this hard time. Keep being positive :D

    and to everyone else... don't sweat the small stuff... its just a wedding.. the most important thing is marrying the one you love. xoxo

     
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    knight.keira    July 21, 2011   Australia

    ***BIG HUGS*** I am so sorry to hear this. I will pray that he recovers fast. xoxox

     
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    Kari 2012    June 2, 2012   Michigan

    I'm sorry to hear this and hoping both of you the best.

     
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    bakerella    September 11, 2010   Toronto, ON

    ((hugs)) I'm so sorry hon. I hope his appointment goes well and that you guys caught it early.

     
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    MrsMeNow    September 18, 2010   Wisconsin

    I am sorry you are going through this. He should absolutely ask about crypreservation (sperm banking). It is also a very treatable form of cancer, especially since you guys got it checked out so quickly. I will keep you both in my thoughts. I gave chemo for 4 years so if any questions come up or you need to vent feel free to pm me.

     
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    KitKatNYC    June 30, 2012  

    I am so sorry to hear this, and I wish him a very speedy recovery. And you should know that 1) you shouldn't be mad at yourself, you're not a bitch, you're the very observant girlfriend who noticed something was amiss and sent him to the doctor! and 2) a friend of mine found out he had testicular cancer in his late 20's. He is now totally healthy and his wife is preggers. Sending you prayers and positive energy!

     
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    kate169    May 21, 2011   Virginia

    I am so sorry...I hope he gets better soon!

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    I am so sorry hun, don't feel bad.  There was no way of knowing.  I will keep you both in my thoughts and pray they got it early.  ((HUGS))

     
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    BayStateBride    September 1, 2012   Cow Hampshire (wedding in MA)

    Please please please don't beat yourself up over this.  There was no way you could have known about this when you were venting about the timeline. 

    Sending good thoughts in hopes the test turns out negative.  *hugs*

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I am so sorry to hear about this!

    If you dont' mind, could you elaborate on the size and feel of the lump? I have felt a small lump (like the size of a pea) on dh's sac before, but its went away. He refuses to go get an annual physical, so I would love some info on how to look out for it myself.

    I had cervical cancer at 20, so I feel for what you are going through :/ Hopefully they caught it early enough that it didn't spread

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    I'm so sorry. *HUGS* If it helps at all, testicular cancer is a very treatable form of cancer and very rarely leads to death.

    Crossing my fingers that your BF's tests come back okay, and that everything sorts itself out.

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    @MrsSl82be: Here is a link on how to do an "at-home" exam for testicular cancer. It says "self", but you can do it if your DH doesn't want to: http://tcrc.acor.org/tcexam.html.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    @Jenniphyr: thanks for posting that info!

     

     
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    janie-janie    February 16, 2010  

    I am so sorry you are going through this. hopefully he caught it early. 

     

     

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