Post # 1
So, my bf got held up at work yesterday and we did not get to go ring shopping like we originally planned. I was upset, but I know that he legitimately did get held up (I really don’t think it was an excuse to weasel out of it.) In fact, he wanted to try and go, but I said that there was no point in rushing to the store since we would at most have 10-15 minutes to look at rings. Nonetheless, I cried a little because I was SO looking forward to ring shopping. For a variety of scheduling reasons (including my finals), we won’t be able to go until next week. Anyway, when I asked him if he was upset he said, “I’m not like you. I’m not worried because I know it is going to happen.” UGH! If he knows it will happen why doesn’t he just propose without the freaking ring?! Sorry, I know I am being a little ridiculous but I really needed to vent
Post # 3
Grr. Guys just don’t get it. They tend to think it’s all about the ring itself and the party/wedding. It’s about knowin he’s picked YOU of all to women in the world to be his WIFE. It’s stressful to be waiting for that validation (I know some people sneer at that word, but seriously, who never, even needs/wants to hear a godo thing about themeslves?). When a woman loves a man, it’s pretty obvious – you don’t wash someone’s underwear or dirty milk glasses if love isn’t involved. When a man loves a woman, it’s not always that evident that he actually values HER – and what we’re asking for is that evidence, that action, that follow-through of tradition that makes it crystal clear.
Also, when all the cards are in your hand, OF COURSE you’re not worried.
Post # 4
Maybe ya’ll could just browse some online for fun until you get to go see them in person? That’s a bummer you couldn’t go yesterday, I’d be disappointed too!
Post # 5
That is SOOOO frustrating! I am sorry girl!
That’s good to know he isn’t worried though– and that he knows it’s going to happen. That’s gotta be a relief! I mena, at least he doesn’t seem like he is avoiding going!
Think of how nice it will be to go once you are done with finals next week and a lot less stressed?! This is such an exciting time in your life, congrats!
In the mean time of waiting for time when you both can go ring shopping together, other than STUDYING LOTS FOR YOUR FINALS (right?), make sure to look around at blogs, this site, jewelers sites, etc… and get a really good idea of what’s out there! Maybe decide what cut of diamond you like, and other characteristics you find appealing…. that way when you do go into the store next week (yay ) you’ll be able to tell the jeweler kind of what you are looking for!
Good luck with everything, especially your finals!
Post # 6
to him it’s not legit without a ring! he wants it to be perfect, perfect for him means having the nicest ring he can possibly get.
Post # 7
@vmec: I know you’re right. If he proposed without a ring I would probably be on here posting about why he didn’t have a ring when he popped the question. LOL. I know I just need to chillax and focus on my studies.
@MsLotus: Oh…we definitely looked online last night. LOL
@Isilme: EXACTLY! “when all of the cards are in your hands of course you are not worried.” This sums up my feelings perfectly. Of course he isn’t worried, he is in total control. Also, he KNOWS he has me. LOL. I pretty much live with him and I might as well wear a sign that says “marry me!”
Post # 8
Awww Im so sorry you two didn’t get to go out shopping especially since ring shopping is so much fun! It will be a nice reward for getting through finals. Did you find anything online you liked? Post some links! 🙂 I also think it’s hilarious that our guys tell us we shouldn’t be worried because they aren’t. It’s like “Uh …. darling. I’m not exactly privy to the same information you are!!”
Post # 9
I second the online ring shopping- technology is so great- good luck!
Post # 10
I’m sorry you didn’t get to go ring shopping I can totally feel your disapointment! If I were you I would be soooo disapointed that I would be grumpy all night…
And his comment “I’m not like you~~~”. That is something my bf would say too… Us girl don’t get their mentality…
Post # 11
Guys look at things so much differently than we do. Im sorry you didnt go shopping!! But it will make it that much better when you do 🙂 It will happen just breath. He is right tho.. you want to be able to have plenty of time next week will come just focus on your finals right now.. Iknow its hard.
Post # 12
@jackndiane: Amazing, my SO said the EXACT same line about not being worried because he knows it will happen….they seem so laid back about things, why can’t it be just as easy for us?
Post # 13
OMG everytime my bf says this I get this feeling like I want to punch puppies as we say when we get mad (not that we would ever do such a thing lol) of course they dont worry when its all in their hands even when you try to explain it to them they just dont get it
Post # 14
I couldn’t say it better than Isilme, they have the say of when and where and IF it even happens to begin with…so of course they don’t worry about it! I’m pretty much in the same boat as you. He’s seems to just be chillaxin through life while I’m in a rediculous twit about something I can’t do anything about!
Post # 15
Ok earlier today I was expressing hard feeling on waiting to my bf. And you know what he said!? “What are you worried about…*blank look*”