My BFF and MOH just said she doesnt want to be my friend anymore?!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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870 posts
Busy bee

What happened? How old are your friends? Seems very immature for a group of girls to ostracise one girl. If your wedding is making you unhappy then do it in a way that will make you happy. But wait and see what these other girls do first. If all your friends drop you they weren’t good friends to begin with. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Mistress_K:  That can’t possibly happen for no reason.. you really have no idea what its about? I think you need to address this in a mature way and ask your friend if you can talk things through.

Don’t cancel your wedding, if her issue is over something really trivial then don’t let her/them have that power over you.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mistress_K:  I see from an old post that you’re 26. I’m pretty sure that a lot of your friends will be more mature than to drop you just because your ex-MOH has a problem with you. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

Mistress_K:  There is something really wrong if you are saying that you lost your BFF and as a consequence all of your friends and that your family also don’t want to come to your wedding.

You are either alienating everyone in your life or you are stressing and blowing things out of proportion. I hope it is the latter.

Did you BFF give a reason as to why she was ending the friendship? Ending a relationship is a big thing and I would hope she had a good reason.

morningcoffee:  May not be immature depending on the reason for the ending of the friendship.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mistress_K:  Wait, his dad wouldn’t drive down your street so you had to carry him?

Anyway, if BFF or her bf have never apologised, I don’t think your comment was out of line. Your other friends would be extremely shallow to drop you over that.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Mistress_K:  talk to her! sort it out! I do understand some people being very defenisive if you’re criticizing their SO; but I believe a good friendship should be able to handle that. best of luck

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

Mistress_K:  I am sorry about your family. I would question why you even want them there. It kind of seems like you are trying to seek out ways to get hurt.

As for your BFF she is probably embarrassed by her FI’s actions but also defensive of him because she loves him. I would stop making any comments about him or his actions good or bad and focus on your friendship with her. 

I would contact her to go for a coffee on nuetral territory and to talk about your friendship. Don;t be defensive or accusatory but defininately let her know that when she does such and such it makes you feel such and such.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Mistress_K:  If you said it a year ago, what made her bring it up again out of the blue?

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mistress_K:  Yes, she’s just being selfish and silly. You did nothing wrong: there was no need to invite the bf to your birthday if she couldn’t come. My advice is: don’t try to make her MOH, and don’t accept her back as MOH if she changes her mind. She’s too volatile and mean. You can either find a new MOH, or have no wedding party – there’s nothing wrong with no wedding party. (Do invite them to the wedding though).

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