- 2 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I don’t even care my “friends” didn’t show up to my bachelorette party, because we still had an amazing time, but it deeply hurts me the fact that my best friend couldn’t be there because of them!!! :@ I need to vent, so sorry if this is long!!
My bestie lives abroad and we haven’t seen each other for ages! I was so happy knowing that I’ll be able to see her in my wedding (i know she was making such an effort to pay for the tickets) and though I wished she could make it to my bachelorette, I knew it was going to be difficult for her to afford it.
the fact is: SHE did an effort to pay as well for the tickets to attend my bachelorette party! (It was surprise, so I found out yesterday)
the initial plan was to go to the place were I lived my teenage years. We had a friend’s house there, so no hotel cost. All my friends said it was great, that they will attend and all. And AFTER my bestie bought her tickets, they started saying it was going to cost a lot and that they would prefer to have it in our current city.
So my bestie, who once again demonstrated how a great friend she is, said that, although she could not change the flight ticket, nor afford a new one to my current city, that she understood that it would be much better (for me) if all of them (but her) could make it – that I’d have a greater time.
So, they changed plans, and all agreed that they will be coming. And instead of saying it in advance (so the few real friends I have could resume the old plan to go to the beach for the weekend + my bestie), they said they wouldn’t be able to attend the f******* day before.
in the end, my best friend wasn’t there because of a bunch of f****** idiots. And I’m so angry at them for that that I’m even thinking about disinviting them to the wedding.
my FI says not to think much about it, but I just can’t… I’m hurt for them not “allowing” my BFF to be there FOR NOTHING!
As this is something that was planned without me knowing it, I don’t know what to do. Should I confront them? Telling them how it hurt me that they weren’t brave enough to say they were not attending so the rest of the group could join my BFF? Or should I forget+forgive? I really don’t know what will be the best thing to do… I guess they should already know the shitty friends they are, but just in case they forgot it, i might have to remind them…