My BFF couldn't go to my bachelorette because of my so-called "friends"!

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Not to sound harsh, but your bestie bought a ticket from out of country to be with you and you were okay with bailing on her?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

No comment.  :X

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

skinnypinkmartini:  That’s really shitty of your other friends to bail out the day before after changing all the plans, and I understand why you’re upset, but I wouldn’t have agreed to change plans knowing my best friend already bought plane tickets 🙁

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

memorieslff:  By my reading, OP didn’t bail because she didn’t even know her BFF had bought a ticket until yesterday.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

memorieslff:  I’m not sure but it sounds like her bestie coming was a surprise she found out about later, then the friends who knew her bestie was flying in changed the location to one bestie couldn’t attend, then they bailed on the party that they changed.  I may be wrong though.  If so that was super rude of them to do and I would be really upset.  

Post # 7
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Wannabee

memorieslff:  I completely agree with you. I can’t imagine bailing on a friend who flew in early to attend the bachelorette party and then not be able to go. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

playdohpants:  memorieslff:  ‘As this is something that was planned without me knowing it…’

I’m pretty sure OP is saying all these changes to the plans happened without her involvement at all. She never knew her best friend had booked tickets because she didn’t know about the original plans, or the fact that her friend was trying to come, until after the fact. Unless I’m misinterpreting the post.

skinnypinkmartini:  Yeah, this isn’t really cool. I think you need to give yourself a little bit of time to cool down so that any conversations you do have are productive, and not just inflammatory. Maybe express to them that you were disappointed that they weren’t able to make the party, especially since the plans had been tailored just for them at the expense (literally) of other people. Give them a chance to fill in any blanks and hear about their view of the situation, in case there’s more to it.

After that though, you’ll need to decide whether this is just an unfortunate event that you can get past, or whether it has changed your view of them to the point where you are no longer interested in maintaining these friendships. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t make any big decisions in the heat of the moment. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

aussiemum1248:  skinnypinkmartini:  

 

My apologies, OP, I thought you knew she had the tickets and OK’ed the location change. That was really inconsiderate of your friends in the first place let alone to bail out on their own plans.

I wouldn’t take any action right now as you’re probably still heated (rightfully so). I’d think about it for a few days so you don’t say or do anything out of anger.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Oh, I read the “after she bought her tickets they said they’d prefer to stay in our current city” and took that to mean after everyone, including OP, was aware she was coming, they switched locations. Now, I do see how you guys are reading it as well. Like it all happened behind her back and she didn’t know about any of it until it was too late. Perhaps OP can clarify?

aussiemum1248:  alwalters625:  

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Miss_Mae:  Oops, I definitely think I misread the post. I apologize OP. That being said, I’m not as level headed as the rest of the ladies on here. I would have no so nice words for those so-called friends of yours. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Your bestie is a beautiful person, and your plan to fly down and surprise her is awesome. focus on that!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

skinnypinkmartini:  yeah, enjoy your bestie, good friends are rare and should be treasured and cherished. Screw these other people, I am speechless st their selfishness. It was a party planned for you, and I can’t imagine not knowing thst nothing would make you happier than surprise bestie visit. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

skinnypinkmartini:  That was a really crappy thing your friends did.  I probably wouldn’t say anything at this point because what’s done is done.  I love that you’re planning to go and visit your BFF for your own party – that’s really fun!

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